My ex split with me about a year ago. I took it pretty hard and it came out of the blue. Still not exactly sure why but l have my theories. Since then l got past it and am moving forward with my life. Over that time we stayed in touch but nothing to indicate things were going to return to the way they were. You know just friends that live in different cities. Recently she asked me if she could come and visit me over Christmas. Any thoughts?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My ex wants to visit from interstate after a year apart.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
AttackFormation
Master Don Juan
She had checked out of the relationship long before, was lining up other guys and when she felt everything was in place to branch swing, she told you its over "out of the blue". As women do, she kept a finger on you as "just a friend" in case she feels she could use you for something. A year later she sees such a use. Perhaps her new guys didnt work out like she planned. Maybe she wants to make someone jealous. Maybe cheat. Could be just wanting to check up on how much influence she still has on your feelings to validate and amuse herself. Who knows.
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Doctor Europeo
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I say bang her if she´s still hot. If she won´t open her legs, kick her out.
R
Ranger
Guest
I guess the guy she left you for isn’t working out too well. LMAO
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