"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My "ex" wants to talk. How should I handle this??

Desdinova

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But the reason I wanna have this talk too was to tell her off. I know i know I don't have to and its not neccessary, but other than just being seen with other chicks and making HER suffer, I want the opportunity to have her accuse me of intentionally making her jealous thus making me lash at her.
You're a goddam drama queen. Why the hell are you intent on meeting up with her just to burn a goddam bridge?

I can't believe you're still letting this woman continue to dictate your life. She's your ex, and she's telling you to meet her, at her convenience, with her fvcking jury there, and you're obeying her commands like a mindless, lifeless robot.

She's a goddam ex. Employees who got fired from their jobs don't go back and do extra work for their ex-bosses for free. Why the hell are you bowing down to this b1tches wants and needs? Cut the goddam puppet strings and live your own life.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Desdinova said:
You're a goddam drama queen. Why the hell are you intent on meeting up with her just to burn a goddam bridge?

I can't believe you're still letting this woman continue to dictate your life. She's your ex, and she's telling you to meet her, at her convenience, with her fvcking jury there, and you're obeying her commands like a mindless, lifeless robot.

She's a goddam ex. Employees who got fired from their jobs don't go back and do extra work for their ex-bosses for free. Why the hell are you bowing down to this b1tches wants and needs? Cut the goddam puppet strings and live your own life.
I DO HAVE TO ADMIT. I THRIVE ON DRAMA:up: . Sorry, but its something I really enjoy. But other than that, I appreciate the responses to this thread. Maybe ill post about how the turn out was. I will keep in mind what has been said here and if you guys were right(which you guys probably are) I promise not to b!tch about it on the forum.
 

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This was a wasted thread. The only reason you started it is you hoped someone would tell you that she still cares about you and wants to be with you and that's the reason she wants to talk. It's your life and your experience to learn from though so have at it. Make sure you come back and tell the truth so we can all say that we told you so.
 

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DJjazzyJeff said:
This was a wasted thread. The only reason you started it is you hoped someone would tell you that she still cares about you and wants to be with you and that's the reason she wants to talk. It's your life and your experience to learn from though so have at it. Make sure you come back and tell the truth so we can all say that we told you so.
No honestly, I didnt need the thread to tell me that. "Actions speak louder than words." and she said it all with the way she was acting. If you guys want, Ill tell you guys about it with full honesty. I havent posted something that I didnt learn from any of my prior experiences or have given advice as to where Ive been. Yea, I admit im a stubborn person and like you said "Its your life and your experience to learn from". When I ask opinions from close friends I always make sure to compare it too the ones im given here, so don't think im not taking into consideration what this place has taught me. Hell, I enjoy critisicm. If it works out or not, ill tell you guys all about it.
 
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