"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My Ex is back..

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toddC

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Well its been a full 8 weeks since I've talked to my ex. However before she left she told me she was coming home on this past tuesday. So yesterday I finally saw her online and I was tempted to IM her btu I didn't because I wanted to see what you guys think I should do...I'm going to be leaving for school in 5 days...Indiana here I come...but do I just leave without talking to her or should I atleast make an attempt to hang out or atleast talk?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Porky

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why do you care?

do you want to talk to her? do you want to see her?

do whatever you want to do.
 
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dude, I know what your feeling, its mad tempting, but jsut say to yourself fcuk it, your better than her, and theres no reason to stay in touch, but hey you do waht u want.
 
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JLW

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If you broke up, it's best to just leave it at that. Have you gotten with any other girls since then?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JLW

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in that case its not as if you're desperate, so who cares about her. you've been doing fine without her. just keep focusing on hobbies and other girls.

I mean I'm a pretty amateur DJ so far, dont get me wrong. But even I know that contacting an ex isnt the best idea.
 
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