"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My Ex is back..

toddC

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Well its been a full 8 weeks since I've talked to my ex. However before she left she told me she was coming home on this past tuesday. So yesterday I finally saw her online and I was tempted to IM her btu I didn't because I wanted to see what you guys think I should do...I'm going to be leaving for school in 5 days...Indiana here I come...but do I just leave without talking to her or should I atleast make an attempt to hang out or atleast talk?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Porky

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why do you care?

do you want to talk to her? do you want to see her?

do whatever you want to do.
 

Bballer7389

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dude, I know what your feeling, its mad tempting, but jsut say to yourself fcuk it, your better than her, and theres no reason to stay in touch, but hey you do waht u want.
 

JLW

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If you broke up, it's best to just leave it at that. Have you gotten with any other girls since then?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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JLW

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in that case its not as if you're desperate, so who cares about her. you've been doing fine without her. just keep focusing on hobbies and other girls.

I mean I'm a pretty amateur DJ so far, dont get me wrong. But even I know that contacting an ex isnt the best idea.
 
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