"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My Ex Girlfriend asked me to delete her

salsalero

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Hi guys,

My Ex Girlfriend asked me to delete her on chat messenger ... by the way I got new gf

So i told her "You can delete me if you want to" .... so she didn't delete me and i didn't delete her .... it look like she don't want to delete me herself, but i must do it.

So i'm not going to delete her, but i insist that i'm not going to do it, but if she feels this way then she must do it. If she delete me i won't invite her again

What a circus lol

What do u guys think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Iceberg

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I dont know...whatever. I'd personally delete her, seeing how she's your ex and she's just bringing drama into your life.

But you seem to enjoy it...so again I say,...whatever.

Sounds like you need some hobbies.
 

fatdog

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salsalero said:
What do u guys think?
What do I think? That you're being a huge woman about this. I imagine this is the same woman that went back to her baby daddy. Just drop this sh1t and stick with your current girl.
 

salsalero

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fatdog said:
What do I think? That you're being a huge woman about this. I imagine this is the same woman that went back to her baby daddy. Just drop this sh1t and stick with your current girl.
lol, yes same woman that went back to her baby daddy

I'm happy with current gf and are sticking with her.

What i don't understand is why she herself don't want to delete me. i want her to do it rather because my logic is sometime in future she might realize or think that she made a mistake. She deleted me. Plus I wear the pants so I'm not going to allow a woman to dictate to me what to do.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kailex

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salsalero said:
What i don't understand is why she herself don't want to delete me. i want her to do it rather because my logic is sometime in future she might realize or think that she made a mistake. She deleted me. Plus I wear the pants so I'm not going to allow a woman to dictate to me what to do.
Well, indirectly she is dictating what you do. If you truly didn't care, you wouldn't be asking or you would have deleted her by now.

So... I don't see where you wear the pants when you're sitting here asking: Why won't she delete me?

WHO CARES?
Don't you have your own relationship you need to worry about?

And stop trying to rationalize women's decisions. Waste of time.
 

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salsalero said:
lol, yes same woman that went back to her baby daddy

I'm happy with current gf and are sticking with her.

What i don't understand is why she herself don't want to delete me. i want her to do it rather because my logic is sometime in future she might realize or think that she made a mistake. She deleted me. Plus I wear the pants so I'm not going to allow a woman to dictate to me what to do.
This girl is already controlling your life because despite you having a girlfriend, you're still thinking about her and you're here writing posts about her. Delete her. Not just from messenger, but from your life. Don't think about her, don't talk about her, don't contact her, nothing. She fvcked up by dumping you, sucks for her.

You shouldn't be thinking about her "realizing her mistake" or anything about her in the future. She's in the past. What she does in the future is none of your concern. You have a new girlfriend, and you should be thinking about her, not your ex.
 

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im glad the guys on this forum could help you with such a life altering decision....
 

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omega05 said:
im glad the guys on this forum could help you with such a life altering decision....
Haha my thoughts exactly
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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