"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I havent heard from my ex in about 2 months, and I randomly get a text message from her, asking to go out to a bar tonight knowing full well that drinking makes her horny, then she tells me theres a reason why she asked me out:"Ok so theres this one guy that has kinda been creeping me and I know you don't owe me any favours, but if you could be there to help me out i would really like it. your the one guy I trust here."

So do I go and be super man? or should I say F*** it and do my own thing. Im not looking for sex from her, I found better lol.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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No. She made it blatantly obvious she is only hanging out with you because she wants a favor. Perhaps to make other guys jealous, to feel "protected", social proof, or whatever.. Who knows what is going through her head right now, but it's definitely not you.
 

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follow up: I told her "I might have plans tonight, depending is she gets back into town or not" 10 seconds later I get a text "who is she?"
 

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No.

She wants that other guy and wants you there to play a jealousy game on him with.

She wants to use you bro.

If she's really afraid for her life tell her the professionals down at the police station will be happy to help her as they are properly trained for just such a task. :rock:
 

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mtlwlu said:
follow up: I told her "I might have plans tonight, depending is she gets back into town or not" 10 seconds later I get a text "who is she?"
So not only is she trying to use you, she's a selfish attention loving ***** that needs constant reassurance that you like her. She's an ex for a reason. Cut all communication from her, she's no good.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sound advice guys! thanks. Just something weird about me protecting her from some guy that a) doesnt even exist b) wont show up to that bar c) hundreds of other people to help her from being "creeped" just doesnt add up.
 

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Sounds familiar. Do not go... period.
 

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She clearly has a hidden agenda and there is no point in trying to figure it out. Ask her what the real reason is or just say flat out, no.
 

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If you guys aren't friends and haven't talked for months then skip.
If you were still good friends after breaking up, I could see this being more acceptable since going out drinking is usually fun in general, so it's no skin off your back to hang out with her (as long as you enjoy her company).
 

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Mr. Me said something in a post awhile ago that really struck me, and it relates to your situation as well. His message was that anytime you are having a real WTF?! moment with a woman, it is not because women are irrational or emotional or illogical (which they are), but because she is bullsh!tting you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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