"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My Ex asked me to hang out...

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I havent heard from my ex in about 2 months, and I randomly get a text message from her, asking to go out to a bar tonight knowing full well that drinking makes her horny, then she tells me theres a reason why she asked me out:"Ok so theres this one guy that has kinda been creeping me and I know you don't owe me any favours, but if you could be there to help me out i would really like it. your the one guy I trust here."

So do I go and be super man? or should I say F*** it and do my own thing. Im not looking for sex from her, I found better lol.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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No. She made it blatantly obvious she is only hanging out with you because she wants a favor. Perhaps to make other guys jealous, to feel "protected", social proof, or whatever.. Who knows what is going through her head right now, but it's definitely not you.
 

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follow up: I told her "I might have plans tonight, depending is she gets back into town or not" 10 seconds later I get a text "who is she?"
 

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No.

She wants that other guy and wants you there to play a jealousy game on him with.

She wants to use you bro.

If she's really afraid for her life tell her the professionals down at the police station will be happy to help her as they are properly trained for just such a task. :rock:
 

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mtlwlu said:
follow up: I told her "I might have plans tonight, depending is she gets back into town or not" 10 seconds later I get a text "who is she?"
So not only is she trying to use you, she's a selfish attention loving ***** that needs constant reassurance that you like her. She's an ex for a reason. Cut all communication from her, she's no good.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sound advice guys! thanks. Just something weird about me protecting her from some guy that a) doesnt even exist b) wont show up to that bar c) hundreds of other people to help her from being "creeped" just doesnt add up.
 

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Sounds familiar. Do not go... period.
 

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She clearly has a hidden agenda and there is no point in trying to figure it out. Ask her what the real reason is or just say flat out, no.
 

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If you guys aren't friends and haven't talked for months then skip.
If you were still good friends after breaking up, I could see this being more acceptable since going out drinking is usually fun in general, so it's no skin off your back to hang out with her (as long as you enjoy her company).
 

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Mr. Me said something in a post awhile ago that really struck me, and it relates to your situation as well. His message was that anytime you are having a real WTF?! moment with a woman, it is not because women are irrational or emotional or illogical (which they are), but because she is bullsh!tting you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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