"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mtlwlu

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I havent heard from my ex in about 2 months, and I randomly get a text message from her, asking to go out to a bar tonight knowing full well that drinking makes her horny, then she tells me theres a reason why she asked me out:"Ok so theres this one guy that has kinda been creeping me and I know you don't owe me any favours, but if you could be there to help me out i would really like it. your the one guy I trust here."

So do I go and be super man? or should I say F*** it and do my own thing. Im not looking for sex from her, I found better lol.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Scars

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No. She made it blatantly obvious she is only hanging out with you because she wants a favor. Perhaps to make other guys jealous, to feel "protected", social proof, or whatever.. Who knows what is going through her head right now, but it's definitely not you.
 

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follow up: I told her "I might have plans tonight, depending is she gets back into town or not" 10 seconds later I get a text "who is she?"
 

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No.

She wants that other guy and wants you there to play a jealousy game on him with.

She wants to use you bro.

If she's really afraid for her life tell her the professionals down at the police station will be happy to help her as they are properly trained for just such a task. :rock:
 

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mtlwlu said:
follow up: I told her "I might have plans tonight, depending is she gets back into town or not" 10 seconds later I get a text "who is she?"
So not only is she trying to use you, she's a selfish attention loving ***** that needs constant reassurance that you like her. She's an ex for a reason. Cut all communication from her, she's no good.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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mtlwlu

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sound advice guys! thanks. Just something weird about me protecting her from some guy that a) doesnt even exist b) wont show up to that bar c) hundreds of other people to help her from being "creeped" just doesnt add up.
 

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Sounds familiar. Do not go... period.
 

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She clearly has a hidden agenda and there is no point in trying to figure it out. Ask her what the real reason is or just say flat out, no.
 

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If you guys aren't friends and haven't talked for months then skip.
If you were still good friends after breaking up, I could see this being more acceptable since going out drinking is usually fun in general, so it's no skin off your back to hang out with her (as long as you enjoy her company).
 

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Mr. Me said something in a post awhile ago that really struck me, and it relates to your situation as well. His message was that anytime you are having a real WTF?! moment with a woman, it is not because women are irrational or emotional or illogical (which they are), but because she is bullsh!tting you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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