"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My Ex 2 Year LTR is still talking negatively about me nearly a year later

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one of my ex gf's told me she was talking to my ltr ex-gf and she said that she brought me up out of nowhere with some complete fake story about how I'm just out to play a girl.......:confused: this is nearly a year after our 2 year relationship ended and we dont talk at all. i told the more recent ex-gf that "it takes a very creative low life to keep my name in their month for over a year" and she was like "I know I didn't believe her for a second, she's clearly jealous". so is this girl just making herself look pathetic to all who she mentions me to with the exception of the group of males she hangs around to fetch and eat off her words?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So... you are talking with your ex about your other ex... don´t you have anything important to do man? Like watching TV or sleeping? What do you think, what is the probability of that one (or both) of them is lying? 99,99%?
 

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Commandante said:
So... you are talking with your ex about your other ex... don´t you have anything important to do man? Like watching TV or sleeping? What do you think, what is the probability of that one (or both) of them is lying? 99,99%?
you know life happens right? like unplanned a girl my call u and seek to catch up with you and if she sees relevance in something she's going to bring it up because the cool one is a great conservationist, she's the type thats witty enough to respond to C&F. i cut off communication with her after broke up but i have respect for her so she's welcome to talk to me. these are the only two girls i made commitments with in my life and the second one was a short term relationship, she was just a good friend and good to be around for reasons mentioned above. the other one is a waste of life on a few levels
 

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She's insecure about herself and still has feelings for you.

The only reason people talk about and judge others badly is because they have things they are insecure about.

I've been in your position and honestly I'd just laugh at her. Take the high road. She's just trying to get a spark out of you and bring her down to her level. Don't let it happen. You're better than that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ease said:
Your recent ex sounds cute.
Oh she is, she's adorable. Stylish, looking like a brunette Barbie. On top of that she said she stuck up for me and was only saying positive things, she respects my intelligence (unlike the other one) and she speaks highly of me. At this point she's a loyal acquaintance I haven't seen in awhile

WC2 said:
She's insecure about herself and still has feelings for you.

The only reason people talk about and judge others badly is because they have things they are insecure about.

I've been in your position and honestly I'd just laugh at her. Take the high road. She's just trying to get a spark out of you and bring her down to her level. Don't let it happen. You're better than that.
Sounds about right, thanks. She's the type of girl that hates other girls because she fears them competitively, she'll avoid hanging out with girls that she feels intimidated around. Most of her friends are dudes who step n' fetch for her and give her attention, she has no interest in any man that has given her approval. I won't let her bring me down to that level, as far as she knows I'm ballin' and stuntin' on life right now, I just need to keep it up :rockon:
 
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