"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My Ex 2 Year LTR is still talking negatively about me nearly a year later

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one of my ex gf's told me she was talking to my ltr ex-gf and she said that she brought me up out of nowhere with some complete fake story about how I'm just out to play a girl.......:confused: this is nearly a year after our 2 year relationship ended and we dont talk at all. i told the more recent ex-gf that "it takes a very creative low life to keep my name in their month for over a year" and she was like "I know I didn't believe her for a second, she's clearly jealous". so is this girl just making herself look pathetic to all who she mentions me to with the exception of the group of males she hangs around to fetch and eat off her words?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So... you are talking with your ex about your other ex... don´t you have anything important to do man? Like watching TV or sleeping? What do you think, what is the probability of that one (or both) of them is lying? 99,99%?
 
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Commandante said:
So... you are talking with your ex about your other ex... don´t you have anything important to do man? Like watching TV or sleeping? What do you think, what is the probability of that one (or both) of them is lying? 99,99%?
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you know life happens right? like unplanned a girl my call u and seek to catch up with you and if she sees relevance in something she's going to bring it up because the cool one is a great conservationist, she's the type thats witty enough to respond to C&F. i cut off communication with her after broke up but i have respect for her so she's welcome to talk to me. these are the only two girls i made commitments with in my life and the second one was a short term relationship, she was just a good friend and good to be around for reasons mentioned above. the other one is a waste of life on a few levels
 
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She's insecure about herself and still has feelings for you.

The only reason people talk about and judge others badly is because they have things they are insecure about.

I've been in your position and honestly I'd just laugh at her. Take the high road. She's just trying to get a spark out of you and bring her down to her level. Don't let it happen. You're better than that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Your recent ex sounds cute.
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Oh she is, she's adorable. Stylish, looking like a brunette Barbie. On top of that she said she stuck up for me and was only saying positive things, she respects my intelligence (unlike the other one) and she speaks highly of me. At this point she's a loyal acquaintance I haven't seen in awhile

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She's insecure about herself and still has feelings for you.

The only reason people talk about and judge others badly is because they have things they are insecure about.

I've been in your position and honestly I'd just laugh at her. Take the high road. She's just trying to get a spark out of you and bring her down to her level. Don't let it happen. You're better than that.
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Sounds about right, thanks. She's the type of girl that hates other girls because she fears them competitively, she'll avoid hanging out with girls that she feels intimidated around. Most of her friends are dudes who step n' fetch for her and give her attention, she has no interest in any man that has given her approval. I won't let her bring me down to that level, as far as she knows I'm ballin' and stuntin' on life right now, I just need to keep it up :rockon:
 
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