Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My Ex 2 Year LTR is still talking negatively about me nearly a year later

Dante420

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one of my ex gf's told me she was talking to my ltr ex-gf and she said that she brought me up out of nowhere with some complete fake story about how I'm just out to play a girl.......:confused: this is nearly a year after our 2 year relationship ended and we dont talk at all. i told the more recent ex-gf that "it takes a very creative low life to keep my name in their month for over a year" and she was like "I know I didn't believe her for a second, she's clearly jealous". so is this girl just making herself look pathetic to all who she mentions me to with the exception of the group of males she hangs around to fetch and eat off her words?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So... you are talking with your ex about your other ex... don´t you have anything important to do man? Like watching TV or sleeping? What do you think, what is the probability of that one (or both) of them is lying? 99,99%?
 

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Commandante said:
So... you are talking with your ex about your other ex... don´t you have anything important to do man? Like watching TV or sleeping? What do you think, what is the probability of that one (or both) of them is lying? 99,99%?
you know life happens right? like unplanned a girl my call u and seek to catch up with you and if she sees relevance in something she's going to bring it up because the cool one is a great conservationist, she's the type thats witty enough to respond to C&F. i cut off communication with her after broke up but i have respect for her so she's welcome to talk to me. these are the only two girls i made commitments with in my life and the second one was a short term relationship, she was just a good friend and good to be around for reasons mentioned above. the other one is a waste of life on a few levels
 

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She's insecure about herself and still has feelings for you.

The only reason people talk about and judge others badly is because they have things they are insecure about.

I've been in your position and honestly I'd just laugh at her. Take the high road. She's just trying to get a spark out of you and bring her down to her level. Don't let it happen. You're better than that.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ease said:
Your recent ex sounds cute.
Oh she is, she's adorable. Stylish, looking like a brunette Barbie. On top of that she said she stuck up for me and was only saying positive things, she respects my intelligence (unlike the other one) and she speaks highly of me. At this point she's a loyal acquaintance I haven't seen in awhile

WC2 said:
She's insecure about herself and still has feelings for you.

The only reason people talk about and judge others badly is because they have things they are insecure about.

I've been in your position and honestly I'd just laugh at her. Take the high road. She's just trying to get a spark out of you and bring her down to her level. Don't let it happen. You're better than that.
Sounds about right, thanks. She's the type of girl that hates other girls because she fears them competitively, she'll avoid hanging out with girls that she feels intimidated around. Most of her friends are dudes who step n' fetch for her and give her attention, she has no interest in any man that has given her approval. I won't let her bring me down to that level, as far as she knows I'm ballin' and stuntin' on life right now, I just need to keep it up :rockon:
 
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