"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My encounter with a bonafide BPD in the field last night

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Last night I was out with Bork and some other fellow gamers in a swanky part of town. I was up on the rooftop just chilling by myself for a bit when I accidentally pushed my chair back and bumped into a blond(I fancy those) she was very receptive towards me and Kinoed me instantly. It felt a bit weird cause I know some other guys she was sitting was trying to hit on her and I honestly wasn't trying to mack. The other weird thing was we would talk she then would try to hold unto my hand like a couple, and if I didn't comply she would "hit me" (which is more like a tap coming from a women) here is part of the convo that I remember before I ejected

"Why you acting like that?" Her

"Acting like what? your the one being childish, and hitting me"

"I enjoy friendship, I need Friendship"

"I don't do friend-zone"

"I love you, why don't you love me the way I love you"


MY RADAR WENT OFF THIS BYTCH IS CRAZZZZZZZZZY:nervous:
I decided to play along for practice sakes.

"Erm you didn't make dinner last night like you were suppose too"​
:yes:

she then hits me again

I bounce stating I had to get a drink (b.s.), I don't know if she was on coke or something but she was definitely out of it and kept pretending like we were a couple and would hit me then try to make feel good by rubbing my hands affectionately. It was like a female version of a push and pull.

eeh

I
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dear Solomen,
Never had that happen....your suggestion re Coke,sounds right...though some of these medications do the same thing...
Dear Old Sue Madre,wanting to step in where Angels fear to tread...A few years ago you might have been right,but these Days look where it got Strauss-Kahn and Julian Assange...These Women are like a Taipan curled up in the grass,tread on them and they bite!
 

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You call that BPD ??? Okay so she gave you very high levels of interest and you didn't mack on her ?

Next time this happens (I doubt it will anytime soon) take the girl away from all the noise and close you could have actually taken this girl and had a wonderful ons mate.
 

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Wtf??? :rolleyes:

You should watch a girl for some period of time to be able to "see" and gather enough information about her (the bpd patterns).

Just this convo is not enough. Like it was said above, it seems like a girl with high IL (being flirty). This bpd term is being overused around here...

*If you had dated 2 times and she wanted to marry you or move in with you, then my spider sense would be tingling. This is a sure heavy signal of a probable bpd.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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maybe I didn't make myself clear enough or maybe you guys didn't read this thoroughly

Like I said she was "out of it" like she was on drugs, reason I say that is she would close her eyes and tilt her head back then 2 minutes later be conscious again

Yeah I wanna bang a chick who might OD on me in the middle of me getting my rocks of

:rolleyes:
 

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Sounds just like a drunken girl to me. I think what the guys are saying is that BPD is a clinical diagnosis of mental illness. I would add that the symptoms rarely manifest until some sort of relationship has taken root.

Lots of bar skanks and chicks in general act out of it and crazy but are not actually BPD. BPD symptoms creep in like a thief in the night and dismantle you one tiny piece at a time. There has to be an emotional hook for her to gain a foothold. Once she has your emotional involvement the carnage commences.
 

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Bull´s eye

Atom Smasher said:
BPD symptoms creep in like a thief in the night and dismantle you one tiny piece at a time. There has to be an emotional hook for her to gain a foothold. Once she has your emotional involvement the carnage commences.
Pretty much nailed it! :yes:
 

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Dam I would have pulled her away from every one else just because some moocher may try to jump in on your awesome drunkie lay. Offered her a drink and had one myself too because this is getting good now. Mack a little bit maybe a lil touchy feely to test the waters and landed that goose on my )!@%!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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? What has that got to do with BPD?
 
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