"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My dad and yours...

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oscarxp25

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On the process of changing my prespective on the world around me so I can become a DJ, I looked at my father. My dad is kind of a push over and I believe that this is where I got my AFC influence from. When I say it is his fault in my head, I get mad at myself and guilty because besides that he is an amazing man. He gave me a great home, life, provided me with education and has a great sense of humor. When I was little, I use to love being around him cause he pulled humor out of every situation and we would laugh.

How are your dads fellow AFC's?

Is it wrong to be a bit angry at him?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ChrizZ

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Well, my dad is an afc in every way. He doesn´t stand up for himself, has no sense of humor and is very strict and takes everything serious. In fact I´ve never seen him laugh.
Me however, I´m the total opposite of him...
 
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Oscar, i think this happens to everyone at some point of time. I was pissed off on my dad at one point too, then i learned to stop concentrating on his faults and just thought of the good times we have shared together, his good qualities, the luxuries he has provided me with, the way he taught me to deal with life. Just accept him as he is, afterall nobody is perfect.... No need to blame him for everything
 
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Well, my dad is a complete drunk so I think you guys have it good. I don't blame him though as it doesn't do me any good. Brian Tracy said something about forgiving and forgetting all the wrong you've sufferred so you can move on and I agree with him completely. Your outer world reflects your inner world so there's no point in harboring these negative feelings.
 
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