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My Cousin Is The Biggest Beta Cuck Ever

Young OG

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I have a cousin who is a lot older then me and he really is getting me angry lately by his stupidity. I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice, want to vent, or hoping that you guys will learn from this. Maybe I'm looking for all three.

He is older, over weight, and balding. He owns several businesses and a home in another state. He also owns a home right by me. We are practically neighbors. For about a year now, he's had a 40 yr old Latina meth head living in his place in the spare bedroom. He met her off of Seeking Arrangements a year ago. You can't tell she does meth besides that shes as thin as a high school girl. Her face is a tad rough for my standards, but she is 40 yrs old. She wears a lot of makeup to hide it and dresses like she is 22. My cousin just thinks she's the hottest girl around. She lies to him and is playing him so badly its just sad. He has been out of state tending to his businesses since the end of May and won't be back here till October. Meanwhile, he is just letting this woman live in his place for free and he is getting nothing out of it.

She has no job. Her license is suspended and he is letting her drive around in one of his cars. She has an Only Fans and I think she does cam stuff on some website. She gets money from that and he recently told me he is spending 3 grand on her a month. He pays for her meth, gambling at the casino, weekly hair/nail salon appointment, cell phone, and all other expenses.

She gets mad at him really easily and then won't answer his calls or texts for days. The other week, I noticed some strange truck outside his place for two days. I told him about it later in the week and he checked his front door camera footage. She shut the camera off for the two days that truck was there. He turned a blind eye to it. He was going to finally kick her out this week after another argument. But, now he said that they had a good long talk and everything is fine. He told me he is in love with her.

He won't listen to me, my parents, or any family about this girl. My parents don't want her in there house and won't go to his now that she lives there. He had a bad child hood, so I'm not sure if this is why he is doing what he is doing. Sometimes I want to just cut him off but I would hate to stop talking to him because of a girl. Its getting really frustrating and I just can't seem to get through to him.
 

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Not your battle to fight. Every person makes their own decisions. Like I said in a previous thread, all people make poor decisions in some aspects of their life so while he is very successful in business he is not so good with relationships.
 

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Easy man. When she drives that car without license, call police anonymously and tell them this information and where this truck is headed. Tell them also, she does meth and possibly has illegal drugs on her.
I've actually thought about doing this. I could buy a cheap gps tracker and stick it under the car. I know the city she goes to for meth. When she goes there, I could report her.

Not your battle to fight. Every person makes their own decisions. Like I said in a previous thread, all people make poor decisions in some aspects of their life so while he is very successful in business he is not so good with relationships.
Your probably right. Its just hard to stand back and watch this happen to a family member. I don't have any siblings and I think of him as my brother.
 

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You are thinking too much with gps trackers and sht. Just report plate number car and driver description. Not 911, google police station number. Also anonymoth call to home owners, lives there doesmeth driveswithout license.
 
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Desperate men and women will do desperate things.

In this case, both man and woman are desperate, he needs some since he can't get any but she can provide and she needs resources since she doesn't have any but he can provide.

It's a win win for both.

Not sure what you want OP.

Since ur cousin ain't a prize, he has to settle for less.
 

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You ain’t gotta go full NC on his ass, but do ghost him in the sense that you never initiate convos and are always the first to end them. If he asks why, just say that you can’t respect a man like that i.e. one who never listens to other people’s advice and is fine with his girl getting ****ed by another man. That’s really it.
 

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you cannot help a Beta male, they will turn on you, rather than face the last 20 years of social engineering is a lie

Ive had many men unfriend me on facebook when i tried to help them

if anything they will think your a misogynist , even though they are drinking 4 times as much due to female stress
 

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The post definitely lived up to the headline. Yep, he's a huge beta cuck. Like others said, not much you can do about it. Some people are gluttons for punishment.
 

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He is older, over weight, and balding.

He met her off of Seeking Arrangements a year ago.
This is all that you needed to say. Everything you describe is a typical sugar daddy/sugar baby dynamic these days.
99% Sugar daddy's are beta, insecure, possessive, unattractive, have no game. Any combination...

To me this is worse than MGTOW. Hiring prostitutes is a one and done deal but these damn sugar babies will leech everything out of you once they tap into your emotional vulnerabilities and take you to the cleaners if you are not careful. That's what happens to most guys including your cousin. It's a fake GF lifestyle mirage at best...

Just let your cousin live his life and let him hopefully learn at some point.
 

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I have a cousin who is a lot older then me and he really is getting me angry lately by his stupidity. I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice, want to vent, or hoping that you guys will learn from this. Maybe I'm looking for all three.

He is older, over weight, and balding. He owns several businesses and a home in another state. He also owns a home right by me. We are practically neighbors. For about a year now, he's had a 40 yr old Latina meth head living in his place in the spare bedroom. He met her off of Seeking Arrangements a year ago. You can't tell she does meth besides that shes as thin as a high school girl. Her face is a tad rough for my standards, but she is 40 yrs old. She wears a lot of makeup to hide it and dresses like she is 22. My cousin just thinks she's the hottest girl around. She lies to him and is playing him so badly its just sad. He has been out of state tending to his businesses since the end of May and won't be back here till October. Meanwhile, he is just letting this woman live in his place for free and he is getting nothing out of it.

She has no job. Her license is suspended and he is letting her drive around in one of his cars. She has an Only Fans and I think she does cam stuff on some website. She gets money from that and he recently told me he is spending 3 grand on her a month. He pays for her meth, gambling at the casino, weekly hair/nail salon appointment, cell phone, and all other expenses.

She gets mad at him really easily and then won't answer his calls or texts for days. The other week, I noticed some strange truck outside his place for two days. I told him about it later in the week and he checked his front door camera footage. She shut the camera off for the two days that truck was there. He turned a blind eye to it. He was going to finally kick her out this week after another argument. But, now he said that they had a good long talk and everything is fine. He told me he is in love with her.

He won't listen to me, my parents, or any family about this girl. My parents don't want her in there house and won't go to his now that she lives there. He had a bad child hood, so I'm not sure if this is why he is doing what he is doing. Sometimes I want to just cut him off but I would hate to stop talking to him because of a girl. Its getting really frustrating and I just can't seem to get through to him.
I think the best thing you could do is tell him that you think he can do better and offer to help him to meet someone else. I'd imagine that the reason he's putting up with all of this is that he doesn't think he can do any better. If he gets a hair transplant and loses some weight he'd start to be attractive to a lot more women.
 

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I have two male cousins on my mom's side of the family. Both got divorced in recent years. I knew both of them were in bad relationships that would eventually fail, and they did. It took longer for them to fail than I actually thought it would take. I did nothing. A person really can't do much if a sibling or cousin has a really bad mate.
 

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I have two male cousins on my mom's side of the family. Both got divorced in recent years. I knew both of them were in bad relationships that would eventually fail, and they did. It took longer for them to fail than I actually thought it would take. I did nothing. A person really can't do much if a sibling or cousin has a really bad mate.
You can let him see you in good situations.

A bad relationship can fvck someone up for years.
 

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You can let him see you in good situations.

A bad relationship can fvck someone up for years.
Only if you live near your siblings or cousins. In the case of those male cousins, I do not live near them and see them in person less than once a year. In those sorts of situations, non-interference is key.
 

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Only if you live near your siblings or cousins. In the case of those male cousins, I do not live near them and see them in person less than once a year. In those sorts of situations, non-interference is key.
Yep let it play out and don't let them keep complaining about it. Let em complain once or twice and thats it. Let them know theres another way.
 

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One thing I've learned is some guys can't be helped, hell my buddies and i have done an intervention for a buddy several years ago
He was gonna move to DC to live with a 21 year old single mother. He was 28 at the time childless and met her at the nightclub he was working at, at that time.

Long story short, he ended up moving back home within 2 years because she was hanging out in "Traphouses" with drug dealers smoking weed, he would pay all the bills and even do her homework. I wish I could say he learned after that but no it got worse

The point is some people you gotta let them fend for themselves it sucks because you may be close to them or truly like them but some people just have to learn the hard way on their own
 

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One thing I've learned is some guys can't be helped, hell my buddies and i have done an intervention for a buddy several years ago
He was gonna move to DC to live with a 21 year old single mother. He was 28 at the time childless and met her at the nightclub he was working at, at that time.

Long story short, he ended up moving back home within 2 years because she was hanging out in "Traphouses" with drug dealers smoking weed, he would pay all the bills and even do her homework. I wish I could say he learned after that but no it got worse

The point is some people you gotta let them fend for themselves it sucks because you may be close to them or truly like them but some people just have to learn the hard way on their own
How much did that Association degrade his life?
 

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You can never do ANYTHING to change a beta cuck. Period.

I've "nicely" tried over the years. Some of the stuff I've seen with my guy friends is cringe-worthy x1000 too.

I've found if you do try to nicely coach them a little, they get really defensive, take on the "I know how women work!" attitude, think I'm playing games and being insincere when I give them some tips, and WILL NOT read up or do anything to change or improve.

Most are really feminine and just love relationships and romance--and they get dumped over and over and their relationships always implode after a few weeks to a few months. Most are quite clingy and "nice" guys and think they deserve a hot 25 year old super model when they're 45 bald and out of shape. They are good friends; responsible, reliable, and just good guys overall. They just lack the "game" gene in their DNA and/or will not change their ways.

All you can do is let the house burn down and stand back and watch with a beer in your hand, shaking your head, saying "I told you so."
 
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