"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My confidence is low when I'm sober in a club, and my AA is extreme

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AA being approach anxiety.
I am absolutely useless at approaching girls in clubs when I'm sober.

I just went blank. All night I couldn't think of a single fuking thing to say to the girls, who were all in loud, rambunctious groups, along with plenty of douchebags guys near them.

I was stone cold sober all night and my energy levels were low.

My skin is also looking bad - some stubborn acne remaining, so my confidence wasn't great.

I need some good openers. From now on I'm gonna make it a rule: force yourself to talk to some random girls, just saying hello, anything, rather than standing around like an idiot
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Walk in to a bar with a crazy look like you just survived an airplane crash. Take few shots and down a beer as soon as you walk to a bar/club to help you loosen up.

Take a minute for the alcohol to work its magic, look at the ceiling as if you reminiscing about life because you just survived a crash, then go up to a first girl and say the first thing that comes to your mind. Dont think, just spit it out.
 
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You're casting too much importance and pressure on yourself, hence making the 'approaching' a more difficult task then it really is.

Think of approaching, as taking a walk, or just talking to a best friend.

Learn to be a sociable person first, then learn to approach.
 
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Allurre said:
You're casting too much importance and pressure on yourself, hence making the 'approaching' a more difficult task then it really is.

Think of approaching, as taking a walk, or just talking to a best friend.

Learn to be a sociable person first, then learn to approach.
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I agree, rehearsed openers don't seem to go off very well from my experiences. And girls can smell if your uncomfortable from a mile away. Just go to the club/bar with the mindset that you are going to have a great night out, converse and meet some cool people. Going out with a positive attitude like that really does reflect and all people want to be around those with a positive vibe.
 
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