My confidence is low when I'm sober in a club, and my AA is extreme

[The_Reaper]

AA being approach anxiety.
I am absolutely useless at approaching girls in clubs when I'm sober.

I just went blank. All night I couldn't think of a single fuking thing to say to the girls, who were all in loud, rambunctious groups, along with plenty of douchebags guys near them.

I was stone cold sober all night and my energy levels were low.

My skin is also looking bad - some stubborn acne remaining, so my confidence wasn't great.

I need some good openers. From now on I'm gonna make it a rule: force yourself to talk to some random girls, just saying hello, anything, rather than standing around like an idiot

 

[Deniska]

Walk in to a bar with a crazy look like you just survived an airplane crash. Take few shots and down a beer as soon as you walk to a bar/club to help you loosen up.

Take a minute for the alcohol to work its magic, look at the ceiling as if you reminiscing about life because you just survived a crash, then go up to a first girl and say the first thing that comes to your mind. Dont think, just spit it out.

 

[Allurre]

You're casting too much importance and pressure on yourself, hence making the 'approaching' a more difficult task then it really is.

Think of approaching, as taking a walk, or just talking to a best friend.

Learn to be a sociable person first, then learn to approach.

 

[TheBaconator]

You're casting too much importance and pressure on yourself, hence making the 'approaching' a more difficult task then it really is.

Think of approaching, as taking a walk, or just talking to a best friend.

Learn to be a sociable person first, then learn to approach.

I agree, rehearsed openers don't seem to go off very well from my experiences. And girls can smell if your uncomfortable from a mile away. Just go to the club/bar with the mindset that you are going to have a great night out, converse and meet some cool people. Going out with a positive attitude like that really does reflect and all people want to be around those with a positive vibe.