"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My confidence is low when I'm sober in a club, and my AA is extreme

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AA being approach anxiety.
I am absolutely useless at approaching girls in clubs when I'm sober.

I just went blank. All night I couldn't think of a single fuking thing to say to the girls, who were all in loud, rambunctious groups, along with plenty of douchebags guys near them.

I was stone cold sober all night and my energy levels were low.

My skin is also looking bad - some stubborn acne remaining, so my confidence wasn't great.

I need some good openers. From now on I'm gonna make it a rule: force yourself to talk to some random girls, just saying hello, anything, rather than standing around like an idiot
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Walk in to a bar with a crazy look like you just survived an airplane crash. Take few shots and down a beer as soon as you walk to a bar/club to help you loosen up.

Take a minute for the alcohol to work its magic, look at the ceiling as if you reminiscing about life because you just survived a crash, then go up to a first girl and say the first thing that comes to your mind. Dont think, just spit it out.
 
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You're casting too much importance and pressure on yourself, hence making the 'approaching' a more difficult task then it really is.

Think of approaching, as taking a walk, or just talking to a best friend.

Learn to be a sociable person first, then learn to approach.
 
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Allurre said:
You're casting too much importance and pressure on yourself, hence making the 'approaching' a more difficult task then it really is.

Think of approaching, as taking a walk, or just talking to a best friend.

Learn to be a sociable person first, then learn to approach.
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I agree, rehearsed openers don't seem to go off very well from my experiences. And girls can smell if your uncomfortable from a mile away. Just go to the club/bar with the mindset that you are going to have a great night out, converse and meet some cool people. Going out with a positive attitude like that really does reflect and all people want to be around those with a positive vibe.
 
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