"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My confidence is low when I'm sober in a club, and my AA is extreme

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AA being approach anxiety.
I am absolutely useless at approaching girls in clubs when I'm sober.

I just went blank. All night I couldn't think of a single fuking thing to say to the girls, who were all in loud, rambunctious groups, along with plenty of douchebags guys near them.

I was stone cold sober all night and my energy levels were low.

My skin is also looking bad - some stubborn acne remaining, so my confidence wasn't great.

I need some good openers. From now on I'm gonna make it a rule: force yourself to talk to some random girls, just saying hello, anything, rather than standing around like an idiot
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Walk in to a bar with a crazy look like you just survived an airplane crash. Take few shots and down a beer as soon as you walk to a bar/club to help you loosen up.

Take a minute for the alcohol to work its magic, look at the ceiling as if you reminiscing about life because you just survived a crash, then go up to a first girl and say the first thing that comes to your mind. Dont think, just spit it out.
 
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You're casting too much importance and pressure on yourself, hence making the 'approaching' a more difficult task then it really is.

Think of approaching, as taking a walk, or just talking to a best friend.

Learn to be a sociable person first, then learn to approach.
 
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Allurre said:
You're casting too much importance and pressure on yourself, hence making the 'approaching' a more difficult task then it really is.

Think of approaching, as taking a walk, or just talking to a best friend.

Learn to be a sociable person first, then learn to approach.
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I agree, rehearsed openers don't seem to go off very well from my experiences. And girls can smell if your uncomfortable from a mile away. Just go to the club/bar with the mindset that you are going to have a great night out, converse and meet some cool people. Going out with a positive attitude like that really does reflect and all people want to be around those with a positive vibe.
 
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