Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Between March 18th to October 25th, break-down as follows.Zero Hero said:I'm not gonna read the whole thread but you only went on 3 dates from online in 7 months?? I had dates from online on Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday this week lol.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
So I sensed from his name... Unless that's his real name, which would be pretty cool.selfmademob said:hes never been laid, hes 29 live with his parents. his pics on myspace are embarrassing.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I dont think so, this was actually a success thread because it worked. I virtually had a couple of girls who were into me, and one that was virutally a girlfriend but it didn't work out - ALL were attracted to me initially based on that type of ad. If anyone says this was not successful last year and I'm stagnant, then it is obvious you haven't read my posts and are just making a ignorant band-wagon post.[S]alvatore said:I'm going to say this, you're wasting your time with all these plans, strategies & dating site ads. The only way you will learn & grow is by getting out there & approaching women, making mistakes, learning from them. If you were making progress using the current method I wouldn't have a problem, but you aren't, you're stagnant.
No, I applied this on December 1st to December 25th, last year - I would not use a Santa Clause peac-cking exercise on times that are outside of the Christmas season. That is within 25 days last year of doing a pea-****ing exercise like this I was able to meet four people from the internet, one of which stook as a temporary gf, and another two that I kissed at the end of the date and could have meet many more. So, what you are saying is pure BS about doing the same thing.Salvatore said:Get your ass out there, talk to women, learn from your mistakes. If something doesn't work, ok scrap it, try something else. But don't stay on these forums and type up the same sh!t that you have been for the last year and a half.
I do not give up.miba said:Seriously dude, just leave this site. You fail at life.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Luke Skywalker said:I do not give up.
New Internet ads are now up and running on plentyoffish, match and lavalife and soon I will start a forward email/smiley campaign.
Sounds like a creative idea - I do have equipment to do that and it sounds like fun, maybe the inspiration I'm looking for.Hero said:Luke,
why don't your post a youtube video of you advertising your ad on youtube and share it to the whole galaxy far far away, like the crazy britney spears fan?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.