Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Between March 18th to October 25th, break-down as follows.Zero Hero said:I'm not gonna read the whole thread but you only went on 3 dates from online in 7 months?? I had dates from online on Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday this week lol.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
So I sensed from his name... Unless that's his real name, which would be pretty cool.selfmademob said:hes never been laid, hes 29 live with his parents. his pics on myspace are embarrassing.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I dont think so, this was actually a success thread because it worked. I virtually had a couple of girls who were into me, and one that was virutally a girlfriend but it didn't work out - ALL were attracted to me initially based on that type of ad. If anyone says this was not successful last year and I'm stagnant, then it is obvious you haven't read my posts and are just making a ignorant band-wagon post.[S]alvatore said:I'm going to say this, you're wasting your time with all these plans, strategies & dating site ads. The only way you will learn & grow is by getting out there & approaching women, making mistakes, learning from them. If you were making progress using the current method I wouldn't have a problem, but you aren't, you're stagnant.
No, I applied this on December 1st to December 25th, last year - I would not use a Santa Clause peac-cking exercise on times that are outside of the Christmas season. That is within 25 days last year of doing a pea-****ing exercise like this I was able to meet four people from the internet, one of which stook as a temporary gf, and another two that I kissed at the end of the date and could have meet many more. So, what you are saying is pure BS about doing the same thing.Salvatore said:Get your ass out there, talk to women, learn from your mistakes. If something doesn't work, ok scrap it, try something else. But don't stay on these forums and type up the same sh!t that you have been for the last year and a half.
I do not give up.miba said:Seriously dude, just leave this site. You fail at life.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Luke Skywalker said:I do not give up.
New Internet ads are now up and running on plentyoffish, match and lavalife and soon I will start a forward email/smiley campaign.
Sounds like a creative idea - I do have equipment to do that and it sounds like fun, maybe the inspiration I'm looking for.Hero said:Luke,
why don't your post a youtube video of you advertising your ad on youtube and share it to the whole galaxy far far away, like the crazy britney spears fan?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.