Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My challenge to you! (1 day to double your success)

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hey MOTU,

I'm intrested in the challange. This would be a good experiment to test my current social skills. And considering I've been in a LTR for 1,5 years (and still am) I could really use the practice.

That being said, here's my reply on your questions

1) What do you think?
What if the girl is really giving me her number but I don't actually want it :D, because I think this challange is pretty much provoking me to ask just about anybody for her number. You ever had that before, that just when you asked the number you don't want it anymore?

example: You see a HB8, she starts to talk and you notice she's pretty wierd. Then you ask for the number, but while she's giving it to you, you start to think "Sh!t, I'm not gonna call this wierdo".
(This seems to happen rather often to me when I'm tipsy)

Yeah, my thoughts often drift off pretty far, sorry about that :nervous:, you asked thought!

2) What are your greatest concerns?
None atm, probebly at that point of time: "hopefully my gf won't find out and start nagging :D" and also: *thinking to myself* "Sh!t I hate rejection"

3) Do you feel this will be of benefit, or not? And why?
Socials skills can only be improved by practice. For practice, having competitions or challanges is just good motivation to work on specific area's of your life. Therefor I have no doubt it will benefit the people who join this challange.

That being said, next week I'm executing the challange, I presume I have to report here? (I'll reanswer your questions then again, to see any change of heart)

Jaeger
 
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What ended up happening with this? I cant find where he posted the details to the event
 
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I'm interested. I've only been regularly approaching women for the past 4 weeks but I want to keep improving and gain more confidence. During this time, I've approached about 40 women, but there is still a lot of work to do.
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1) What do you think? I think it would help me a lot as closing is still a problem for me.

2) What are your greatest concerns? Getting kicked out of a place for approaching.

3) Do you feel this will be of benefit, or not? And why? Yes, it could help me get over my fear of closing and increase my confidence.

4) What is the best day for us to do this? When I go to the city again, preferably a place like Nashville.
 
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I'll do it..

approached about 12 so far (small town, could've done more big city) ...so what are you proposing?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm up for the challenge and excited to hear points of view!
 
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Double my dating in 1 day!
I am so in.

Count me in.
I aired my cellphone number on the radio so I got 300 text messages from girls wanting to go out on a date with me.
Plus T.V. plus internet personals.
Plus newspaper ads
Plus street pick
Plus networking through friends
and I have more women more than I could handle.
I win!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm down for it. What are you gonna do, make us approach couples in the middle of making out? Chellenge meatheads to fistfights?
 
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I'm not reading 5 pages.

I'm 28 years old and have 0 cold approaches in my entire life. That's right. None. Zip. Zilch. I'm absolutely terrified. Every time I'm about to cold approach a woman, I chicken out. Its like something inside me just freezes and won't let me do it.

I'm interested.
 
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grr im intrested , lets hear from the op =P
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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excellent post. but the challenge descriptions are missing. this thread needs to be somewhere up!
 
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MOTU you should definitely come back and finish up this thread bro!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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