"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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My challenge to you! (1 day to double your success)

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jaeger

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Hey MOTU,

I'm intrested in the challange. This would be a good experiment to test my current social skills. And considering I've been in a LTR for 1,5 years (and still am) I could really use the practice.

That being said, here's my reply on your questions

1) What do you think?
What if the girl is really giving me her number but I don't actually want it :D, because I think this challange is pretty much provoking me to ask just about anybody for her number. You ever had that before, that just when you asked the number you don't want it anymore?

example: You see a HB8, she starts to talk and you notice she's pretty wierd. Then you ask for the number, but while she's giving it to you, you start to think "Sh!t, I'm not gonna call this wierdo".
(This seems to happen rather often to me when I'm tipsy)

Yeah, my thoughts often drift off pretty far, sorry about that :nervous:, you asked thought!

2) What are your greatest concerns?
None atm, probebly at that point of time: "hopefully my gf won't find out and start nagging :D" and also: *thinking to myself* "Sh!t I hate rejection"

3) Do you feel this will be of benefit, or not? And why?
Socials skills can only be improved by practice. For practice, having competitions or challanges is just good motivation to work on specific area's of your life. Therefor I have no doubt it will benefit the people who join this challange.

That being said, next week I'm executing the challange, I presume I have to report here? (I'll reanswer your questions then again, to see any change of heart)

Jaeger
 

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What ended up happening with this? I cant find where he posted the details to the event
 

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I'm interested. I've only been regularly approaching women for the past 4 weeks but I want to keep improving and gain more confidence. During this time, I've approached about 40 women, but there is still a lot of work to do.
Edit:
1) What do you think? I think it would help me a lot as closing is still a problem for me.

2) What are your greatest concerns? Getting kicked out of a place for approaching.

3) Do you feel this will be of benefit, or not? And why? Yes, it could help me get over my fear of closing and increase my confidence.

4) What is the best day for us to do this? When I go to the city again, preferably a place like Nashville.
 

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I'll do it..

approached about 12 so far (small town, could've done more big city) ...so what are you proposing?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Masculinity

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I'm up for the challenge and excited to hear points of view!
 

Alchemystic

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Double my dating in 1 day!
I am so in.

Count me in.
I aired my cellphone number on the radio so I got 300 text messages from girls wanting to go out on a date with me.
Plus T.V. plus internet personals.
Plus newspaper ads
Plus street pick
Plus networking through friends
and I have more women more than I could handle.
I win!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm down for it. What are you gonna do, make us approach couples in the middle of making out? Chellenge meatheads to fistfights?
 

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I'm not reading 5 pages.

I'm 28 years old and have 0 cold approaches in my entire life. That's right. None. Zip. Zilch. I'm absolutely terrified. Every time I'm about to cold approach a woman, I chicken out. Its like something inside me just freezes and won't let me do it.

I'm interested.
 

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grr im intrested , lets hear from the op =P
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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excellent post. but the challenge descriptions are missing. this thread needs to be somewhere up!
 

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MOTU you should definitely come back and finish up this thread bro!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

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