My biggest problem

[steve_erkle]

I'm not really a big fan of approaching and **** because I'm still in high school and there's already a lot of hotties there and I know most of them. So the whole cold approaching ascept is unimportant to me.

What is important to me is inner game, just being confident and natural. I believe that if you are completely confident and natural, everything comes to you easily and there's no need for techniques or stuff like that. My problem is that I am a bit shy, and don't really have that confidence. And I don't just mean around girls, I mean everyone, including friends and family. I constantly subconciously feel like I'm holding back from being myself and can't let go of my inhibitions.

I know that I have a awesome personality because back when I wasn't shy like this and was confident I attracted some awesome people and I was just a lot of fun. I want to be like this again, but idk how.

 

[Furyguy]

Did you read Book of Pook yet?

 

[steve_erkle]

I haven't read the whole book but I read some of his good stuff. I dont mean to sound like a **** but I've been reading stuff like that for two years so I'm doubtful it will make a big difference. I guess I could be wrong though.

Anyone else been in my situation ?

 

[Warrior74]

What happened to make you retreat back into a shell? Do you know? Figure that out.

Start taking action. You sound like you are afraid. So how do you get over fear? By thinking about it? By mulling it over? Or by doing what you are afraid of? Face your fear or it will climb up your back and consume you.

Say one thing everyday that you are terrified of saying. Say it anyway. Accept the consequences. And watch that it won't be as bad as you think. I promise. Good luck.

 

[steve_erkle]

What happened to make you retreat back into a shell? Do you know? Figure that out.

Start taking action. You sound like you are afraid. So how do you get over fear? By thinking about it? By mulling it over? Or by doing what you are afraid of? Face your fear or it will climb up your back and consume you.

Say one thing everyday that you are terrified of saying. Say it anyway. Accept the consequences. And watch that it won't be as bad as you think. I promise. Good luck.

Well, I had been shy all my life, and then I met this amazing girl and realized I wanted her and completely changed myself to get her. I started working out, seriously improved my looks, and uhh.. I guess when girls started liking the way I looked I got confidence from that which helped me make some friends and etc. So everything went up from there and I got the girl and people started liking me and looking up to me. Suddenl all the girlswanted me, but I was serious abcout my girl, so I ignored the others. For some reason i started losing my confidenxe and i broke up with herWhen we broke up I was devastated, and uhh yeah I haven't really had the confidence since then. I'm over her.. This was like two years ago.

Hmm.. It's not really that I'm scared it's just that I never feel like myself. I think. **** haha I don't even know what it is.

 

[steve_erkle]

Bump

 

[steve_erkle]

Does anyone else have/ had this problem?

 

[imaginemypotential]

What happened to make you retreat back into a shell? Do you know? Figure that out.

Start taking action. You sound like you are afraid. So how do you get over fear? By thinking about it? By mulling it over? Or by doing what you are afraid of? Face your fear or it will climb up your back and consume you.

Say one thing everyday that you are terrified of saying. Say it anyway. Accept the consequences. And watch that it won't be as bad as you think. I promise. Good luck.

yes it happened to me, minus getting a hot girlfriend, i got over it , once i accepetd reality, and started being myself, high school is the craziest social setting u can be in, but if u know anything about social dynamics u can be the man, take in what these guys are telling you

i just graduated in 07 and I'm a totally different dude, **** all the girls u can, and dont care what others think, i mean dont go over the edge and stop taking showers, i mean like always have your chin centered, always think positive, grow as person, go on college tours alot of those chicks get freaky in the hotels, everything ur going isnt new someone else has lived it , some are still living it while others have moved on and grown as a person, regain your confidence go get some coochie and you'll feel much better

 

[xdreamz]

i dont know if itll work for you but pretending i was a lost student got me pretty damn far.

 

[steve_erkle]

yes it happened to me, minus getting a hot girlfriend, i got over it , once i accepetd reality, and started being myself, high school is the craziest social setting u can be in, but if u know anything about social dynamics u can be the man, take in what these guys are telling you

i just graduated in 07 and I'm a totally different dude, **** all the girls u can, and dont care what others think, i mean dont go over the edge and stop taking showers, i mean like always have your chin centered, always think positive, grow as person, go on college tours alot of those chicks get freaky in the hotels, everything ur going isnt new someone else has lived it , some are still living it while others have moved on and grown as a person, regain your confidence go get some coochie and you'll feel much better

Hmm I like that.

anyone else?