"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My best friend

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I've known this guy since 3rd grade (right now we're in 12th). Ever since I visited this site (not posting), which was maybe a year ago, I've realized more and more that he is a true example of an AFC. In fact, he may be worse than an AFC; all the girls that are his friends are (sorry to say but....) butt ugly and are extremely childish to the point where they don't care about guys.

We still hang out a lot, but I seem to be migrating into another cirlce of friends who have more DJ-esk qualities. There's no way in hell I will abandon him or even reduce our contact so I'm thinking about recommending this website to him, and more specifically, the DJ Bible.

Any suggestions on how to recommend this site without sounding insulting? I don't think I can say, "What to see a site that will help you get girls?" because that's really not what SoSuave is.

Thanks much.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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whatever or however you do it, just do it. He'll be thankful for it.
 

Vincent

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Originally posted by idiot_boyfriend
Any suggestions on how to recommend this site without sounding insulting? I don't think I can say, "What to see a site that will help you get girls?" because that's really not what SoSuave is.

Thanks much.
Do what my best friend did for me, send him Pook - Kill the desperation, and Pook - Be a Man!

Hopefully he'll get the idea, then show him the site.
 

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No, don't show him.

Just provide him with your own guidance, it'll work best.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by AC/DC
No, don't show him.

Just provide him with your own guidance, it'll work best.
yep, just give him your advice which has been reinforced from the forum. dont show him it, or he might use it against you once he becomes a better person.
 

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It is his DUTY as a friend to show him. If they are really friends there will be no back stabbing.

feminine *******s. get a life.
 

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Thanks for the advice guys. Most likely, I'll give him a link to a few articles and see if he likes them.

I would really doubt that he would backstab me like that because we are pretty close....but I do value your opinion.

Thanks.
 

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Originally posted by AC/DC
Just provide him with your own guidance, it'll work best.
Thats doesn't work well sebastian. I've tried.
 

idiot_boyfriend

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Originally posted by Vincent
Thats doesn't work well sebastian. I've tried.
Yeah, I don't think my interpretation could possibly match or even summarize the DJ Bible.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well, I suppose we should all try for the sake of trying but... It won't work. A person will never change until they feel that desire to do so deep inside on their own.

Trust me.

When he will be ready for the site, he'll let ya know.
 

idiot_boyfriend

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Yeah, I see what you mean: he has to be dedicated to the task of changing his personality.

Well, maybe when he asks a girl out, I'll give him some links or (if I become a DJ) a few pointers.
 
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