"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've known this guy since 3rd grade (right now we're in 12th). Ever since I visited this site (not posting), which was maybe a year ago, I've realized more and more that he is a true example of an AFC. In fact, he may be worse than an AFC; all the girls that are his friends are (sorry to say but....) butt ugly and are extremely childish to the point where they don't care about guys.

We still hang out a lot, but I seem to be migrating into another cirlce of friends who have more DJ-esk qualities. There's no way in hell I will abandon him or even reduce our contact so I'm thinking about recommending this website to him, and more specifically, the DJ Bible.

Any suggestions on how to recommend this site without sounding insulting? I don't think I can say, "What to see a site that will help you get girls?" because that's really not what SoSuave is.

Thanks much.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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whatever or however you do it, just do it. He'll be thankful for it.
 
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Originally posted by idiot_boyfriend
Any suggestions on how to recommend this site without sounding insulting? I don't think I can say, "What to see a site that will help you get girls?" because that's really not what SoSuave is.

Thanks much.
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Do what my best friend did for me, send him Pook - Kill the desperation, and Pook - Be a Man!

Hopefully he'll get the idea, then show him the site.
 
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No, don't show him.

Just provide him with your own guidance, it'll work best.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by AC/DC
No, don't show him.

Just provide him with your own guidance, it'll work best.
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yep, just give him your advice which has been reinforced from the forum. dont show him it, or he might use it against you once he becomes a better person.
 
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It is his DUTY as a friend to show him. If they are really friends there will be no back stabbing.

feminine *******s. get a life.
 
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Thanks for the advice guys. Most likely, I'll give him a link to a few articles and see if he likes them.

I would really doubt that he would backstab me like that because we are pretty close....but I do value your opinion.

Thanks.
 
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Originally posted by AC/DC
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Thats doesn't work well sebastian. I've tried.
 
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Originally posted by Vincent
Thats doesn't work well sebastian. I've tried.
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Yeah, I don't think my interpretation could possibly match or even summarize the DJ Bible.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well, I suppose we should all try for the sake of trying but... It won't work. A person will never change until they feel that desire to do so deep inside on their own.

Trust me.

When he will be ready for the site, he'll let ya know.
 
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Yeah, I see what you mean: he has to be dedicated to the task of changing his personality.

Well, maybe when he asks a girl out, I'll give him some links or (if I become a DJ) a few pointers.
 
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