mushroomhead
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Ok that should good to me.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
My approach is this any good or i need something better ?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mushroomhead
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I will never tell that to a girl.
Don_Joffe
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ulfur: I think your small steps process is GREAT infact its BEYOND WORDS!
Do you guys not see how simple and easy and great his small steps are? It will sky rocket your confidence. Thanks man, I think I may just be able to complete week 3 of my bootcamp tommorw because of this advice.
Do you guys not see how simple and easy and great his small steps are? It will sky rocket your confidence. Thanks man, I think I may just be able to complete week 3 of my bootcamp tommorw because of this advice.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ulfur
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glad it's making sense.
knight56:
start off with a very simple question like "where is the nearest bank/subway/xyz place" once the girl has responsed say thanks and move on. even if the girl doesnt know where that place is, the important thing is you've just talked to a random girl.
once you've comfortable with that, ask "where's a good place to eat around here." often the case, the girl will start asking questions back like "what kind of food do you like". doesnt matter what you say at this stage, in fact try and wing it and see how you do. say thanks and move on...
now reflect..... if you followed the small steps, you've just talked to 20 random girls --- how easy was that??
knight56:
start off with a very simple question like "where is the nearest bank/subway/xyz place" once the girl has responsed say thanks and move on. even if the girl doesnt know where that place is, the important thing is you've just talked to a random girl.
once you've comfortable with that, ask "where's a good place to eat around here." often the case, the girl will start asking questions back like "what kind of food do you like". doesnt matter what you say at this stage, in fact try and wing it and see how you do. say thanks and move on...
now reflect..... if you followed the small steps, you've just talked to 20 random girls --- how easy was that??
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Only because they know there are 10 other girls who will say hi back, so stop fretting on the one that didnt and go find the 10 that will.
DJHoolahoop
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well if your shyness had anything to do with mine, it was being afraid to say anything in case they didn't like me or not being interesting to them, etc..
but more times than not, if you're not acting like a retard and are able to do some kind of C&F jokes then they're usually up all over ya.
The thing is though is that what i thought was the case for girls wasn't and it turns out that they're easier to approach than previously thought. All they really look at is that a guy is coming up to them talking.
Just don't act like a tard or she won't want nothing to do with you.
As for your approach earlier in this post, I say drop it because I don't see why you need to talk on the phone to do that? What about talking on the phone makes it easier as opposed to asking her if you weren't "on the phone"?
but more times than not, if you're not acting like a retard and are able to do some kind of C&F jokes then they're usually up all over ya.
The thing is though is that what i thought was the case for girls wasn't and it turns out that they're easier to approach than previously thought. All they really look at is that a guy is coming up to them talking.
Just don't act like a tard or she won't want nothing to do with you.
As for your approach earlier in this post, I say drop it because I don't see why you need to talk on the phone to do that? What about talking on the phone makes it easier as opposed to asking her if you weren't "on the phone"?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ok your approaching so that is positive. But now you need to take it to the next level. You see asking a girl you don't know how late the bus is coming, is an icebreaker but not more than that. You need her interest level up, quick.
Go direct. You can use Sharks line: "I like you, I wanna get to know you". No c+f sh*t just this. You see when your new to this stuff actually saying that line to a strange girl is hard. Because you must let go of your ego. Now after this opener you must have solid game. For example in this case at the busstop: first you ask her name, you can ask were she is going, what she's going to do, if she had a fun weekend stuff like that. It opens her up and will give you enough leads to go into some rapport like 5-10 min, then close.
I don't use Sharks line, but did use it for practice. And the results are never bad after all even if you get shot down you will feel great for having done the approach.
This one I use in daytime: "Hey...I think you have a pretty smile, don't you?". Give her a smile, and you will get one back. Then it's on.
Forget the excuser stuff it's much more work and less effective.
Go direct. You can use Sharks line: "I like you, I wanna get to know you". No c+f sh*t just this. You see when your new to this stuff actually saying that line to a strange girl is hard. Because you must let go of your ego. Now after this opener you must have solid game. For example in this case at the busstop: first you ask her name, you can ask were she is going, what she's going to do, if she had a fun weekend stuff like that. It opens her up and will give you enough leads to go into some rapport like 5-10 min, then close.
I don't use Sharks line, but did use it for practice. And the results are never bad after all even if you get shot down you will feel great for having done the approach.
This one I use in daytime: "Hey...I think you have a pretty smile, don't you?". Give her a smile, and you will get one back. Then it's on.
Forget the excuser stuff it's much more work and less effective.