My Amazing LTR GF has a "Bad Past"

[jafyk]

Rudy, I'd say your pretty much judgmental and perhaps a hypocrite. While you may not have done the same exact thing as your ex did. What if your past wsa continually held over your head? She came to you, because she felt she had something with you and that you'd look past her past. Perhaps you should have asked her to share her past with you before getting in so deep and now realizing that a saint like yourself is too good for that girl. Would you have preferred that she hid it from you and then you find out from some body else? You cheated with her on her ex bf didn't you? You've been with more people than she's been with. She's the hor and you're the DJ playa right? What if she was a virgin and a lousy lay who didn't have those other qualities you described earlier. That would be awesome right? Women want relationship guys want sex. When a lady doesn't want to give it up the guys walk or keep trying every which way they can to have them give it up. What's a girl to do. Perhaps one day the script will be flipped on you. You meet a girl with super high morals and she finds out about your past and then dumps you. You know maybe we should have a code of conduct for women on this site, that says what is ok and what is not and what the ideal woman should be.

 

[jafyk]

Oh and change the topic to I dumped my amazing ex because she had a bad past and nothing she will ever do will make up for it.

 

[sheep-man]

Most girls are like that... the past is the past for a reason let it go or let a great relationship u could have with her go... its pretty petty to judge people on there pasts. u should get over it. your not after a virgin mary so why get cut that shes not one.

 

[Paintballguy]

who gives a ****? give her the benefit of the doubt until she proves otherwise.

 

[BudBundi]

So please, I am asking advice from the experience DJs.

If you're so dead set on staying with this girl and you're pissed about her past, take your anger out during sex and ride her HARD.

Then do it again in her pooper

 

[pua1989]

Dude I haven't bothered to read past page 3 of these replies, but, come on, SO many girls have had threesomes. Whats so different between a threesome with 2 girls, than regular sex? ****, your girl is down to maybe play around with another chick. Maybe suck on some balls (which she has most likely already done with her other LTRs)? Get over yourself, your topic says it all: My Amazing LTR GF has a "Bad Past"

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Update: She said go and do what it takes to get over it..

I said like what I've exhausted everything. Its pretty much I have to go do my own threesomes but no way you would take me back so no. So yea I dont think there is any other way I could get over it unless I get amnesia lol.

Her reply: If you have to do a threesome to get over it then to save the relationship I guess I have to let you do it. Then we move on and be happy.

Seriously is this bait? Is this a set up? Is this girl crazy? Do you really think my inadequacy can be fixed by going all out bein loose to crazy sh*t like this?

How many of you had to do "catch up" just to get over a girls crazy past and she took you back.

This is complicated. I just wished she never had a past like that. This is crazy.

 

[MacAvoy]

I honestly feel for you. She isn't giving you bait, I think she honestly loves you and wants you to get over it. However if you go out and have a threesome, I guarantee things will change and there will be a 95% chance, that it will be the beginning of the end of your relationship.

Her feelings will change once she knows you fvcked other women, right now she's trying to do the right thing, but a women CANNOT control her emotions. More than likely, her emotions will overpower her and your relationship will be over if you go through with it.

The only saving grace might be if you have a three some TOGETHER. Then you are doing it together but threesomes are the end of many relationships as well, I'd say about 85%.

You need to deal with this on your own, its the only solution, its in your head.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Yea I've been having my own reservations about doing this. I must say that other relationships ive seen crashed out bad and had nightmare endings.

How do I get rid of always feeling "behind" and inadequate...I know how to get her to do another 3some but I just don't want to see her in that light now. I feel like I'm using her as a mop to clean up my own issues I can't change.

Maybe one thing i can do is try making our own sexual milestones...but I think I just watch heaps of porn and do all sorts of nasty sh*t.....like whatever etc...so I feel like she is more willing with me to do stuff with just me and her....not other people involved

 

[jafyk]

Perhaps ypu should look at all the wonderful reasons you'd rather be with her and focus on those instead of dwelling on that one thing from her past. Even if you went out and had a threesome it's not gonna change how you feel and what she did. Accept that you feel the way you do and just find a way to live with it.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Hey guys believe it or not.....

I AM STILL WITH HER.

But we are on a break at the moment because we have been under a lot of stress with other priorities. IE my business, work, social life etc and she has her own issues ie study, family.

So I will go date other girls. At the moment there isnt a lot of better options out there. Most girls I see have too much cons than pros (IMO). I guess I just want a bit of action to "catch up" and satisfy my own.

 

[Jblitz59]

Her reasons to be on break: studying and family?

DUH she is sleeping with someone else!!!!
otherwise she would STAY with you.

dude be single and date other girls. have fun!

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Nah it was me who wanted a break, originally a clean break. She didnt want to break up but it me who wanted out.

I know for a fact she is studying and staying with family because I stayed at her families at some farm.

I guess Im just chilling out and looking at things without distractions