"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
My Accomplishment
- Thread starter DrD77
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Fuglydude
Master Don Juan
Also what are your core lifts like? Lifts like front/back squat, deads, bench, cleans, etc. What is your body comp like?
core lifts are bench, deadlift, squat. i workout 3 times a week in that order. I also do cardio for at least 20 minutes AFTER each workout. my goal is to get to around 175. my body comp is normal i guess.Fuglydude said:Good job man. To answer your question however, it depends on what your goals are.
Also what are your core lifts like? Lifts like front/back squat, deads, bench, cleans, etc. What is your body comp like?
Fuglydude
Master Don Juan
I'm gonna encourage you to stay away from purely focusing on bodyweight goals. Although I'm totally guilty of this as well, I think you should focus more on getting stronger and better conditioned, rather than just aiming to be at a certain bodyweight.
By body composition I mean how lean you are...this is often hard to estimate, but for most people, having a 6-pack means that you're in the single digits bodyfat %. You can get bodyfat tested by a variety of methods.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Well, I definitely don't have a 6-pack. I have a spare tire that I'm trying to get rid of. That's why I do cardio. I kind of agree with you on focusing on strength and conditioning rather than bodyweight. I just don't want to get extremely big. I know that If I gain around 15 more pounds in muscle, I will be very strong and conditioned. I don't however, want to get over that number.Fuglydude said:Yep, you're right, bench, deads, squat are core lifts for powerlifting. However, I like to incorporate some olympic lifting stuff into the mix as well. I believe it makes you a more complete athlete. Post your raw numbers.
I'm gonna encourage you to stay away from purely focusing on bodyweight goals. Although I'm totally guilty of this as well, I think you should focus more on getting stronger and better conditioned, rather than just aiming to be at a certain bodyweight.
By body composition I mean how lean you are...this is often hard to estimate, but for most people, having a 6-pack means that you're in the single digits bodyfat %. You can get bodyfat tested by a variety of methods.
my numbers aren't anything to write home about.
bench-185
deadlift-295
squat-245