Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
core lifts are bench, deadlift, squat. i workout 3 times a week in that order. I also do cardio for at least 20 minutes AFTER each workout. my goal is to get to around 175. my body comp is normal i guess.Fuglydude said:Good job man. To answer your question however, it depends on what your goals are.
Also what are your core lifts like? Lifts like front/back squat, deads, bench, cleans, etc. What is your body comp like?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well, I definitely don't have a 6-pack. I have a spare tire that I'm trying to get rid of. That's why I do cardio. I kind of agree with you on focusing on strength and conditioning rather than bodyweight. I just don't want to get extremely big. I know that If I gain around 15 more pounds in muscle, I will be very strong and conditioned. I don't however, want to get over that number.Fuglydude said:Yep, you're right, bench, deads, squat are core lifts for powerlifting. However, I like to incorporate some olympic lifting stuff into the mix as well. I believe it makes you a more complete athlete. Post your raw numbers.
I'm gonna encourage you to stay away from purely focusing on bodyweight goals. Although I'm totally guilty of this as well, I think you should focus more on getting stronger and better conditioned, rather than just aiming to be at a certain bodyweight.
By body composition I mean how lean you are...this is often hard to estimate, but for most people, having a 6-pack means that you're in the single digits bodyfat %. You can get bodyfat tested by a variety of methods.