"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Music to Seduce

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So everything goes well you have a nice day and you bring her home. What kind of music should be playing to "set" the mood? What about the music that's playing will you two are driving? Plus, is it true that it's better if the music is italian, spanish, french, etc. Basically another language.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Since alot of the cute girls (the ones I date ':) ) tend to go for rap I usually put on some Jadakiss even though I can't stand the guy......but it's not about me, he creates a 'opened up' attitude in the girls
 

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Boyz II Men - I'll Make Love to You
Bow Wow feat Omarion - Let Me Hold You
Luther Vandross - Always and Forever
Mario - You Should Let Me Love You
 

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I personally think "Seduce Me" by India is a good one with a nice subliminal message. "Freak Me" by Silk is pretty good too.

But Nouvelle Vague is the best. French and Brazillian lounge-singing girls covering post-punk classics. Find some of that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Luther Vandross (either the really old stuff, or some of the slow new stuff) works wonders, personally I made a mix cd with alot of his old stuff and his new song with Beyonce, and some of the other slow songs on the new album (not the ones with Busta Rhymes tho, he ruins the mood)
 
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-Stick to Classics like Marvin Gaye, Barry White, Al Green, Isaac Hayes, Frank Sinatra.
-If you want something more recent then try: Maxwell, Dru Hill, Joe, Brian McKnight or Keith Sweat.
 
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