Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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muscle size attracts women?

Fuglydude

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Jitterbug said:
I'm about the same height & weight as Fug, but with higher BF% (17~18, I think). Cougars and certain girls just could not help their hands on my shoulders, arms, chest etc. As soon as I say, for example, I have a sore shoulder, there'll be one of them rushing to give me a massage and somehow one hand will end up on my chest :p. Will be interesting to see what happens when I lean down over the next few months. In long term, I plan to be between 180~185lbs <14% BF, mostly for my powerlifting comps (83kg class).
Jitter, when you're leaner the random groping you describe is typically followed by a $5-20 bill in your underwear after :D

Lean and big is the best way to go if you're looking to get laid... you really don't need game when you look good.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Sounds awesome, can't wait! :D
 

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true, but I'm lean right now and was at the club this weekend lording it up and taking all the girls attention with my fun and charisma when the big handsome guys were standing around giving me the jealous stink eye and getting no attention.
 

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yuppaz said:
true, but I'm lean right now and was at the club this weekend lording it up and taking all the girls attention with my fun and charisma when the big handsome guys were standing around giving me the jealous stink eye and getting no attention.
Fun and charisma are hard to fake, I think.
I know a lot of RSD stuff is based on trying to psych yourself up into this state of mind where you are fun and charismatic.
When you're in that zone it comes natural.
But it's a hard thing to do if you aren't feeling it.
 

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Just look on the cover of just about EVERY paperback romance novel and tell me what you see guys? Hmm?

Do you think a girl would fantasize about what the book would be like if they put Mr. Pretzel dude with a pocket protector on the cover?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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