SeymourCake
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
lol good thing you pointed that out.Aazman said:read who has written it.
then ignore it. Can't trust a woman's opinion. plus she doesn't represent every girl in the world.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think women like the looks of facial hair, it makes the guy look rugged. But I think they like the feel of the clean shaven guy. I used to have a goatee but the hair on my face is very stiff and it would irritate the girl's skin. So I shaved it off, plus it was getting too gray anyway. I'm sure a lot of guys have softer facial hair, mine is like steel wool and it's a bear shaving it off even.Anyways, what is everyone else facial hair like? I keep a clean shave now.
I used to keep it clean shaven but not anymore. I have struggled all my life with my image. I can't help it I have pretty boy good looks and a nice face. Having facial hair has given me that edge that I didn't have before. I look more mature and rough and not so much like a nice guy because of my pretty face. If you look like a nice guy/have a pretty face rather than a masculine face then you should definitely grow some facial hair.SeymourCake said:lol good thing you pointed that out.
Anyways, what is everyone else facial hair like? I keep a clean shave now.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Exactly my problem that's why I had to grow a beard. It doesn't look very good as it takes me me a while to grow facial hair but it does help me look manlier.Demonicale said:Yeah it does make you look older and more manly, i've alway's suffered from boyish looks which i think put alot of women off.
So i've grown me some long sideburns with a goatee and mustache.