SeymourCake
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
lol good thing you pointed that out.Aazman said:read who has written it.
then ignore it. Can't trust a woman's opinion. plus she doesn't represent every girl in the world.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I think women like the looks of facial hair, it makes the guy look rugged. But I think they like the feel of the clean shaven guy. I used to have a goatee but the hair on my face is very stiff and it would irritate the girl's skin. So I shaved it off, plus it was getting too gray anyway. I'm sure a lot of guys have softer facial hair, mine is like steel wool and it's a bear shaving it off even.Anyways, what is everyone else facial hair like? I keep a clean shave now.
I used to keep it clean shaven but not anymore. I have struggled all my life with my image. I can't help it I have pretty boy good looks and a nice face. Having facial hair has given me that edge that I didn't have before. I look more mature and rough and not so much like a nice guy because of my pretty face. If you look like a nice guy/have a pretty face rather than a masculine face then you should definitely grow some facial hair.SeymourCake said:lol good thing you pointed that out.
Anyways, what is everyone else facial hair like? I keep a clean shave now.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Exactly my problem that's why I had to grow a beard. It doesn't look very good as it takes me me a while to grow facial hair but it does help me look manlier.Demonicale said:Yeah it does make you look older and more manly, i've alway's suffered from boyish looks which i think put alot of women off.
So i've grown me some long sideburns with a goatee and mustache.