SeymourCake
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
lol good thing you pointed that out.Aazman said:read who has written it.
then ignore it. Can't trust a woman's opinion. plus she doesn't represent every girl in the world.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think women like the looks of facial hair, it makes the guy look rugged. But I think they like the feel of the clean shaven guy. I used to have a goatee but the hair on my face is very stiff and it would irritate the girl's skin. So I shaved it off, plus it was getting too gray anyway. I'm sure a lot of guys have softer facial hair, mine is like steel wool and it's a bear shaving it off even.Anyways, what is everyone else facial hair like? I keep a clean shave now.
I used to keep it clean shaven but not anymore. I have struggled all my life with my image. I can't help it I have pretty boy good looks and a nice face. Having facial hair has given me that edge that I didn't have before. I look more mature and rough and not so much like a nice guy because of my pretty face. If you look like a nice guy/have a pretty face rather than a masculine face then you should definitely grow some facial hair.SeymourCake said:lol good thing you pointed that out.
Anyways, what is everyone else facial hair like? I keep a clean shave now.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Exactly my problem that's why I had to grow a beard. It doesn't look very good as it takes me me a while to grow facial hair but it does help me look manlier.Demonicale said:Yeah it does make you look older and more manly, i've alway's suffered from boyish looks which i think put alot of women off.
So i've grown me some long sideburns with a goatee and mustache.