You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why are you moving to China of all countries? Didn't you just move back home from Taiwan?zinc4 said:I could care less if the girl is BPD as i generally just look for short flings and one night stands. And what is FOB stand for?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
my advice is the clubs in Shanghai are way way too loud… wear ear protection. Check out M2 when you are in Shanghai. The only part I hate about it is people keep walking into you and knocking you out of balance -- bad clubbing etiquette. Smokes are bad as well (I hate clubs full of cigarette smells).zinc4 said:Can anyone tell me what the dating/clubbing scene is in Shanghai and Chengdu and/or China in general and what to expect from gaming women?
(Fresh Off The Boat) only applies when you are inside the West.I could care less if the girl is BPD as i generally just look for short flings and one night stands. And what is FOB stand for?
:rockon:Oh, I know why. Every time he starts to read this thread he blows his load and has to go change his shorts.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.