Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Why are you moving to China of all countries? Didn't you just move back home from Taiwan?zinc4 said:I could care less if the girl is BPD as i generally just look for short flings and one night stands. And what is FOB stand for?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
my advice is the clubs in Shanghai are way way too loud… wear ear protection. Check out M2 when you are in Shanghai. The only part I hate about it is people keep walking into you and knocking you out of balance -- bad clubbing etiquette. Smokes are bad as well (I hate clubs full of cigarette smells).zinc4 said:Can anyone tell me what the dating/clubbing scene is in Shanghai and Chengdu and/or China in general and what to expect from gaming women?
(Fresh Off The Boat) only applies when you are inside the West.I could care less if the girl is BPD as i generally just look for short flings and one night stands. And what is FOB stand for?
:rockon:Oh, I know why. Every time he starts to read this thread he blows his load and has to go change his shorts.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.