You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why are you moving to China of all countries? Didn't you just move back home from Taiwan?zinc4 said:I could care less if the girl is BPD as i generally just look for short flings and one night stands. And what is FOB stand for?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
my advice is the clubs in Shanghai are way way too loud… wear ear protection. Check out M2 when you are in Shanghai. The only part I hate about it is people keep walking into you and knocking you out of balance -- bad clubbing etiquette. Smokes are bad as well (I hate clubs full of cigarette smells).zinc4 said:Can anyone tell me what the dating/clubbing scene is in Shanghai and Chengdu and/or China in general and what to expect from gaming women?
(Fresh Off The Boat) only applies when you are inside the West.I could care less if the girl is BPD as i generally just look for short flings and one night stands. And what is FOB stand for?
:rockon:Oh, I know why. Every time he starts to read this thread he blows his load and has to go change his shorts.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.