Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Seeing each other once a month is NOTHING man.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Honestly I want to see how the visit plays out but I honestly ever since that have been trying to get into plate spinning. I have issues meeting people in social events so for now I’ve just been forcing myself to go to crowded places just to see that it isn’t as bad as I play it out to be in my mind
Lol and the funny part is that she’s said that if she has to move more than a 1hr 30mins away from her family she wouldn’t do it. Honeslty
Send them my way, I’ve recently looked into AMS, No More Mr Nice Guy, and Rational Male. Funny enough I literally just started reading over the part where he talks about immaginary friends. Sign from God, who knows.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.