"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Moving In With Hot Russian Girl in NYC?

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OP even i can realize that you are getting hooked into trouble, bet you are already thinking about the flowers at your wedding right?

think rationally
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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No wonder why most of you are single. What a horrible attitude most of you have.

This girl is saving me $125 per night. I'm only here for another month or two (but haven't told her that).

She will save me about $8,000, which is why I hope to keep it platonic. Of course I'm not moving in hoping to start something. I'm moving in to save money.

If I have sex with her, bonus. But to turn down both because she might have BPD? Who cares? I'm still dating a girl 10 years younger than she is back in TX. And most of you complaining are the same ones who have forecasted nothing but the worst throughout our 18 months together.

When a bunch of hot girls like you in a short period of time, the odds are that they all like you for the same reasons. For some of you to pretend there are 10 unique reasons why each of them has fooling me - some for years - is absurd. It's called having an agenda. You sound like Dianne Feinstein.
 

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If you guys knew how much rent is in NYC, you'd be doing the same thing as bigneil. It's ridiculously high.
 

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Will F*ck BPD Chicks For Rent.

Seriously, this move is the equivalent of a 43% raise - it's the difference between taking home $76,000 and $109,000 per year after taxes.

And the women here normally cost even more than rent. My soul is a small price to pay.
 

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Quick.......somebody sound the CLUSTER B ALARM.

I heart Russian titty dancers, my mom was a Russian titty dancer and I was even conceived in the VIP.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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And one other thing, I once bought this super fast and sexy Italian motorcycle, It was a HM10+. The kind you see in magazines! I had a big plan I was going to save all this money by riding it everywhere too instead of driving. In fact, I'd save so much money it would pay for itself.

Then guess what happened? I crashed the fuhkin dirty slut doing 100mph plus and owed more in medical bills than I could imagine.

Fuhk yeah I still ride cuz I like things that are sexy and go fast.

Just remember to hit the eject button before this russian hookr goes kamikazie.
 

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You said you're only there for a month or two...so the difference in rent cost for 2 months is 33k? Or are you just extrapolating over the whole year? I knew NYC was expensive, but damn!

You know I would advise you not to do this, but sh!t man your life. She is def BPD.
Yes that's over a year.

It means I take home $415 per work day versus $290 per day.

She has her issues for sure. She said last night "Lots of men tell me I'm beautiful and I say I know I'm beautiful, tell me something else". She is on some type of antidepressants, and drinks Diet Coke (IMO Aspartame is the single worst thing a person can ingest). But I'll keep you guys posted.
 

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Yes that's over a year.

It means I take home $415 per work day versus $290 per day.

She has her issues for sure. She said last night "Lots of men tell me I'm beautiful and I say I know I'm beautiful, tell me something else". She is on some type of antidepressants, and drinks Diet Coke (IMO Aspartame is the single worst thing a person can ingest). But I'll keep you guys posted.
oh so your agenda is to save money and fvck pu$$y on the side? lol that's genius
teach me master :woo:
 

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Update - Day 1 living with Russian.

6:00pm I inflated my $107 bed from Amazon.
9:00pm She came home from work.
9:15pm I served dinner.
9:22pm She pulls out matching wedding bands and proposes marriage.
9:23pm She realizes the ring won't fit.
9:25pm (My jaw still open) She says she's joking.
12:07am She says she's not joking but if I want to marry her (and be paid $15k) I have until Monday to decide.

Am I a good cook or what?

PS - Monday she is getting married to someone else.

TheLoner deserves credit.

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Does she work at Gallagher's? All Russian over there. And yes, Rusky strippers are linked with the Red Mafia, so be careful. She probably needs papers for US citizenship as well. Do not let her/them pay you off to marry her if it comes up. You'll be a lifer at that point.
Prophetic.
 

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bigneil said:
Update - Day 1 living with Russian.

6:00pm I inflated my $107 bed from Amazon.
9:00pm She came home from work.
9:15pm I served dinner.
9:22pm She pulls out matching wedding bands and proposes marriage.
9:23pm She realizes the ring won't fit.
9:25pm (My jaw still open) She says she's joking.
12:07am She says she's not joking but if I want to marry her (and be paid $15k) I have until Monday to decide.

Am I a good cook or what?

PS - Monday she is getting married to someone else.

TheLoner deserves credit.

Prophetic.

interesting take to the story...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Day 2:

I woke up to her jumping on my bed like a 5 year old.
She said no sex until she is married, but it doesn't have to be me who marries her.
She said we can be FB's, actually using that term in complete word form.
She had taken a nap in my bed when I left and was still there when I got back.
Asked me how much I make.
Told me she loves me.
I realized that her getting married to someone else is win/win for me, so I was helping her pick out shoes for the wedding, which is a few hours from this writing.
She told me I can tie her up and blindfold her.
She said nothing is taboo for her.
I still haven't tried to kiss her.
 

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bigneil said:
No wonder why most of you are single. What a horrible attitude most of you have.

This girl is saving me $125 per night. I'm only here for another month or two (but haven't told her that).

She will save me about $8,000, which is why I hope to keep it platonic. Of course I'm not moving in hoping to start something. I'm moving in to save money.

If I have sex with her, bonus. But to turn down both because she might have BPD? Who cares? I'm still dating a girl 10 years younger than she is back in TX. And most of you complaining are the same ones who have forecasted nothing but the worst throughout our 18 months together.

When a bunch of hot girls like you in a short period of time, the odds are that they all like you for the same reasons. For some of you to pretend there are 10 unique reasons why each of them has fooling me - some for years - is absurd. It's called having an agenda. You sound like Dianne Feinstein.
I'm going to follow your story, i'm very intrigued. Let us know when this part:

"This girl is saving me $125 per night. I'm only here for another month or two (but haven't told her that)."

Does happen. I'm eagerly awaiting her reaction.
 

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With roof access on the 6th floor it would probably be an "accidental fall".
 

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I am now changing my name to "The Mentalist"!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Day 3: - She got married at noon. Then around 7PM she texted me and asked me where I was (I was at the bar, she was at the apartment). I tried to avoid answering her but she asked again and then called me so I answered. She asked me to have dinner with her. I guess the honeymoon is over for the other guy.

So I went home to find her laying in my bed and she said "Take me, I'm yours" but I said "Whatever" and made dinner. "You're all talk" I said. She was talking dirty to me, but I just served grilled ham and cheese on Rye. Later she was snuggling up with me and I put her on my lap and she said "What are you doing? What do you want? You want sex? I'm not ready".

So I said "Ok, time for you to go". "Why, what did I do??" I said that girls who don't have sex with me aren't allowed in my bed. Somehow we ended up kissing but I still booted her, and I went downstairs ahead of her. When we got outside she said "I just wanted to make you wait, that's all" and she grabbed my hand. I told her she was going to blow it if she made me wait much longer, but I spun her around and we had the original twilight romantic kiss. I told her I'd sooner move out than be her friend, and she said she wanted to drive me crazy. It's working.
 

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bigneil said:
So I went home to find her laying in my bed and she said "Take me, I'm yours" but I said "Whatever" and made dinner. "You're all talk" I said. She was talking dirty to me, but I just served grilled ham and cheese on Rye. Later she was snuggling up with me and I put her on my lap and she said "What are you doing? What do you want? You want sex? I'm not ready".

So I said "Ok, time for you to go". "Why, what did I do??" I said that girls who don't have sex with me aren't allowed in my bed. Somehow we ended up kissing but I still booted her, and I went downstairs ahead of her. When we got outside she said "I just wanted to make you wait, that's all" and she grabbed my hand. I told her she was going to blow it if she made me wait much longer, but I spun her around and we had the original twilight romantic kiss. I told her I'd sooner move out than be her friend, and she said she wanted to drive me crazy. It's working.
"Whatever. You're all talk."

I love that :up: .
 

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"Whatever. You're all talk."

I love that :up: .
Ya I agree, that ain't bad.

Funny she offered herself at first, then later when Bigneil put her on his lap she refused.
 

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Day 3: - She got married at noon. Then around 7PM she texted me and asked me where I was (I was at the bar, she was at the apartment). I tried to avoid answering her but she asked again and then called me so I answered. She asked me to have dinner with her. I guess the honeymoon is over for the other guy.

So I went home to find her laying in my bed and she said "Take me, I'm yours" but I said "Whatever" and made dinner. "You're all talk" I said. She was talking dirty to me, but I just served grilled ham and cheese on Rye. Later she was snuggling up with me and I put her on my lap and she said "What are you doing? What do you want? You want sex? I'm not ready".

So I said "Ok, time for you to go". "Why, what did I do??" I said that girls who don't have sex with me aren't allowed in my bed. Somehow we ended up kissing but I still booted her, and I went downstairs ahead of her. When we got outside she said "I just wanted to make you wait, that's all" and she grabbed my hand. I told her she was going to blow it if she made me wait much longer, but I spun her around and we had the original twilight romantic kiss. I told her I'd sooner move out than be her friend, and she said she wanted to drive me crazy. It's working.
Why or how you would want this type of drama in your life is beyond me. You do realize this woman is at the very best a BPD, and at the very worst a complete psycho. So you deciding to move in with her? Tells me you are either a person with nothing going on in your life and who craves drama (would not be surprised if this is the case as your taste for dating strippers illustrates) or also a complete psycho.

Living there sounds like a complete and utter nightmare. Not at all what a together, mature, 40 year old man would want in his life. Do not at all be surprised if someday soon you wake up with her holding a knife over your head. Personally? I would get the fawk out of there and never look back, and I sure as hell would not have sex with her.

You really are piece of work BN.
 

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Why or how you would want this type of drama in your life is beyond me. You do realize this woman is at the very best a BPD, and at the very worst a complete psycho. So you deciding to move in with her? Tells me you are either a person with nothing going on in your life and who craves drama (would not be surprised if this is the case as your taste for dating strippers illustrates) or also a complete psycho.

Living there sounds like a complete and utter nightmare. Not at all what a together, mature, 40 year old man would want in his life. Do not at all be surprised if someday soon you wake up with her holding a knife over your head. Personally? I would get the fawk out of there and never look back, and I sure as hell would not have sex with her.

You really are piece of work BN.
Stop talking him out of it :box: , i'm enjoying a very awesome story here :rock:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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