"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Movie Review: Hitch
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
Don Joffe... u just called me an afc right? .. watch what happens with carmen & company... after i'm done with them, we will see who comes out on top
And if we are going to bring personall things into this forum, then i sure have ALOT to say about you ... Anyways... last night i had a kewl time.. going out doesnt always have to consist of macking chicks, i was with my friends and had a good time. And Don Joffe.. u know very well that when i WANT to be a Don Juan, i can.. lets not go to all the other nights where YOU decided to... umm.. sit down and watch p0rn all night while i did all the talking and entertainment? oh and how about the time... hmm... i'll keep all the other times that u were an afc to myself... for now. Laterz...
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
watch what happens with carmen & company - Ill be watching.
going out doesnt always have to consist of macking chicks, i was with my friends and had a good time - All your friends calling you :gay: , is that what you call having a good time?
Ill be up for no further comment on the issue.
hahaha... them calling me gay was teasing me because i had an alice-band in my hair, which them being their immature self, thought was gay... but me, being mature, knew that it was a joke, and TOOK it as a joke, and we laughed about it, and had a good time, yes. Now i'm not going to mention anything AFC about u, because i am not here to tune you and try bring you down in front of the others in the forum,but i really think that its time for you to grow up and start looking at yourself before judging others... I had a good time last night with or without macking chicks, deal with it.
laterz...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
diablo
Master Don Juan
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
HERE'S A NOVEL IDEA
IT'S A COMEDY
BE ENTERTAINED
Stop trying to find the DJ dogma in EVERYTHING. What a shallow life, seriously. Learn to relax, have fun, and enjoy a comedy movie for what it is: A COMEDY MOVIE!!! You read far more into this than anyone else does.
There were parts when i was yelling "COME ON KID, YOU CAN DO THIS!" (no i wasnt in the movie theater at the time) and parts where i was just going "JESUS CHRIST COME ON!!!" ..but then again every time i see a guy burn in flames i start "helping him out by yelling at the screen"
I would not read into this guys... if you think a movie will stop your success with women...well.. too bad for ya
I would definately have some issues with that girl printing stuff about myself.. First of all, why not tell me directly what you know so i can explain, instead of judging me and trashing me? Second, after all that you think "i didnt mean to hurt you" is going to be enough? puh-lease. Women say that line and at the same time HURT you.. it is ridiculous, just cause you said it dont mean if you do something bad it hurts less...
Anyway, interesting how they didnt explain where the hell WS is going to find a job now.. the other guy is rich cause of marriage, but WS?
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
Call me irrational. I dont follow trends, I create them.
So therefore I wont be following the trend that the 2 of you are trying to set.
Do you guys honestly think they made the movie just for the laugh? It was made for a laugh AND most importantly for the ROMANTIC(JUAN) side of it. Hence "LOVE DOCTOR" not "FUNNY MAN" - you want funny man? Go watch the BoonDock Saints.
MetalFortress- No1 said Don Juan is our or my :life: IF YOU read the Don Juan Bible and the sosuave website It states to be a JUAN you must have hobbies other than the GIRLS. I sense you an AFC, youve made many posts I see, your knowledge not at its peak?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Don Joffe: u might be right.... but saying what u said, a Don Juan also doesnt "connect" everything else with Don Juan.. meaning that "Hitch" doesnt have ti have anything to do with Don Juan.... Maybe the fact that being a "love doctor" added some spice to it, yes, but it was NOT the intention of the movie to "teach" people how to be Juan or wateva.. it was to make people laugh. Go watch the rewiew of the movie.
Laterz...
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
The first 10 minutes where you see him helping the other guys was good too. LIke when the guy says "these shoes aren't me" and he's like "You bought them with your own money, you put them on...they are you" He didn't say BE YOURSELF AND SHE'LL LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE. The way he says it shows that whatever you become is you.
Some of you guys sicken me with the **** you say:
"Oh you can't follow him, he was afc, he brought her drinks"
WTF is with that insecure gay sh!t. He was fvcking pimp in that scene. He didn't enter with buying her a drink, he LEFT buying her a drink, after a good conversation and playful banter. That whole interaction was James Bond-esque, countering everything you "thought" a player would do and just walking away when she expects you to chase and give her the upperhand.
Did anyone else draw parralells between Will Smith's job and these forums? I recall some of the stuff he said being similar to the reason people say they study seduction and NLP....not to trick them into bed or hope that they can swindle them, but so that they can have a chance at something that they normally don't take the time to look at.
It may be a rumour, but I heard some of the people read FS...Did any seductionist notice the persistent guy trying to get the pattern out on the girl as a last resort? lol. That was funny.
loveprefect
Senior Don Juan
the thing is the hot women is an AFC during her teens...thats why she can relate to the guy's action and adore him....
theSpeculator
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Overall I think the movie is more like a satire. There are some good DJ skills that was in the movie but it seems the director intentionally blew it out of proportion to make it funnier. Overall Will Smith character is very smooth. He is charming, confident, intelligent, and does not take disrespect from Eva Mendez's character. Of course the director would put some AFC qualities in Will Smith's character for laughs.
However I think the best Don Juan are the ones that can balance out their AFC qualities and their DJ qualities. Like Pook said, "perfection is boring."
Furthermore, I ask some of my AFC friends about the movie and all of them response saying that they thought the movie was good but they do no think it is real, as in that it does not reflect real life. I agree to some extend. I think the overblown satire part is not real. But I think the overall big picture is at the very least partially true.
theSpeculator
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.