Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Don Joffe... u just called me an afc right? .. watch what happens with carmen & company... after i'm done with them, we will see who comes out on topOriginally posted by Don_Joffe
Most comedies are ment to make people laugh. One only laughs at the stupidity of the AFC'S moves that are pulled. aequ|tas- after last night you should take serious insight into the Will Smith approach and try it out yourself or contine being the AFC that you are.
hahaha... them calling me gay was teasing me because i had an alice-band in my hair, which them being their immature self, thought was gay... but me, being mature, knew that it was a joke, and TOOK it as a joke, and we laughed about it, and had a good time, yes. Now i'm not going to mention anything AFC about u, because i am not here to tune you and try bring you down in front of the others in the forum,but i really think that its time for you to grow up and start looking at yourself before judging others... I had a good time last night with or without macking chicks, deal with it.Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Lets not make this a personal confontation, im sure you dont want another warning, and i certainly dont. So, ill leave you with this:
watch what happens with carmen & company - Ill be watching.
going out doesnt always have to consist of macking chicks, i was with my friends and had a good time - All your friends calling you :gay: , is that what you call having a good time?
Ill be up for no further comment on the issue.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I agree!Originally posted by MetalFortress
HEY GUYS
HERE'S A NOVEL IDEA
IT'S A COMEDY
BE ENTERTAINED
Stop trying to find the DJ dogma in EVERYTHING. What a shallow life, seriously. Learn to relax, have fun, and enjoy a comedy movie for what it is: A COMEDY MOVIE!!! You read far more into this than anyone else does.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I guess life is too short to be arguing about this sh!t... Now lets go do something more worth our while rather than waste our life arguing over a movie?Originally posted by Don_Joffe
I guess they all AFC?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
the thing is the hot women is an AFC during her teens...thats why she can relate to the guy's action and adore him....Originally posted by Double J
I was going to post about this last night too. I thought the movie was pretty good; it had its funny parts, but I don't think it lived up to the hype. The preview made it seem bigger and better than it ending up being. It was still funny and I still recommend it.
In terms of the DJ stuff, Will Smith plays the game in accordance to his rules until he falls in love with Eva Mendes. The movie reminds me a lot of "Two Can Play at that Game" with Vivica Fox and Morris Chestnut, where it is the girl that realizes that "there are no rules when it comes to love."
Another thing I want to point out. I'll be a little vague because I don't want to play the role of spoiler here, but in the movie Will Smith tries to help an AFC accountant guy land a blondie that works for the same company as him. Even when they were out on the date, the guy was oblivious to many of the things that Smith told him not do (still danced in a wacky way, etc.). Still, the girl ended up falling for him, and I think the message being conveyed here is that women will like you for you no matter what. Kinda unrealistic.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.