She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Don Joffe... u just called me an afc right? .. watch what happens with carmen & company... after i'm done with them, we will see who comes out on topOriginally posted by Don_Joffe
Most comedies are ment to make people laugh. One only laughs at the stupidity of the AFC'S moves that are pulled. aequ|tas- after last night you should take serious insight into the Will Smith approach and try it out yourself or contine being the AFC that you are.
hahaha... them calling me gay was teasing me because i had an alice-band in my hair, which them being their immature self, thought was gay... but me, being mature, knew that it was a joke, and TOOK it as a joke, and we laughed about it, and had a good time, yes. Now i'm not going to mention anything AFC about u, because i am not here to tune you and try bring you down in front of the others in the forum,but i really think that its time for you to grow up and start looking at yourself before judging others... I had a good time last night with or without macking chicks, deal with it.Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Lets not make this a personal confontation, im sure you dont want another warning, and i certainly dont. So, ill leave you with this:
watch what happens with carmen & company - Ill be watching.
going out doesnt always have to consist of macking chicks, i was with my friends and had a good time - All your friends calling you :gay: , is that what you call having a good time?
Ill be up for no further comment on the issue.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I agree!Originally posted by MetalFortress
HEY GUYS
HERE'S A NOVEL IDEA
IT'S A COMEDY
BE ENTERTAINED
Stop trying to find the DJ dogma in EVERYTHING. What a shallow life, seriously. Learn to relax, have fun, and enjoy a comedy movie for what it is: A COMEDY MOVIE!!! You read far more into this than anyone else does.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I guess life is too short to be arguing about this sh!t... Now lets go do something more worth our while rather than waste our life arguing over a movie?Originally posted by Don_Joffe
I guess they all AFC?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
the thing is the hot women is an AFC during her teens...thats why she can relate to the guy's action and adore him....Originally posted by Double J
I was going to post about this last night too. I thought the movie was pretty good; it had its funny parts, but I don't think it lived up to the hype. The preview made it seem bigger and better than it ending up being. It was still funny and I still recommend it.
In terms of the DJ stuff, Will Smith plays the game in accordance to his rules until he falls in love with Eva Mendes. The movie reminds me a lot of "Two Can Play at that Game" with Vivica Fox and Morris Chestnut, where it is the girl that realizes that "there are no rules when it comes to love."
Another thing I want to point out. I'll be a little vague because I don't want to play the role of spoiler here, but in the movie Will Smith tries to help an AFC accountant guy land a blondie that works for the same company as him. Even when they were out on the date, the guy was oblivious to many of the things that Smith told him not do (still danced in a wacky way, etc.). Still, the girl ended up falling for him, and I think the message being conveyed here is that women will like you for you no matter what. Kinda unrealistic.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.