"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Movie: Remember the Titans....listed as one of top 100 masculinity movies
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
oh yes, a younger Denzel Washington too. That little daughter kept on acting too.
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It really is a great movie. Amazon has it to rent. Well worth the 4 bucks. I have the VHS (don't laugh).
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Awesome! I've never rented on the internet. Maybe if I get one of those 7-11 visa cards, I'll rent it.
I have Conan the Barbarian and Live at Pompeii-Pink Floyd and my hs graduation on vhs, no player anymore though so no laughs from me. At least you probably still have a player to watch it on.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
on a art of masculinity blog I get delivered to my email. I screenshotted the ones I'd think that I might like. I'll go look at the screenshots and there should be a date in details on the shot and the email/blog date would have been delivered that day or within a few days before that date.
its too bad it wasn't your cup of tea. 'Maltese Falcon' was on that list(your profile name suggests you like that masculine movie)
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TBH, you prob. can get the movie free from the library. You'd be amazed how many movies the library has. Never knew until recently. They also have an online version where you can stream for free, all you need is your library card usually.
oh yes, I was trying to entertain my last love in the last month before the end with my hoopla/library card movie watching. I guess I blocked that out of my memory temporarily. Thanks for reminder.
Some that I still want to see for the first time or again from that list of masculine movies:
Butch Cassidy & The Sundance Kid
The Great Escape
Dirty Harry
First Blood
The Endless Summer
Bull Durham
Field of Dreams
The Pride of The Yankees
The Natural
Hoosiers
Cinderella Man
Rocky
Chariots of Fire
Spartacus
Enter the Dragon
The Karate Kid
Seven Samurai
There will be Blood
Fight Club
Braveheart
The Last of the Mohicans
The Shootist
High Noon
Unforgiven
Shane
True Grit
The Searchers
The Good, The Bad and The Ugly
"Jeremiah Johnson"
The Grapes of Wrath
Malcolm X
Mississippi Burning
Ben Hur
Lawrence of Arabia
The Bridge on the River Kwai
Glory
Patton:A Salute to a Rebel
Schindler's List
Zulu
The Bicycle Thief
The Outsiders
They Called Him "Fast Eddie"
Cool Hand Luke
The Sting
All the President's Men
A Streetcar Named Desire
On the Waterfront
The Longest Day
Bullitt
Rebel Without a Cause
Citizen Kane
Mr. Deeds Goes to Town
From Here to Eternity
Mr. Smith Goes to Washington
The Best Years of Our Lives
North by Northwest
Gentleman's Agreement
Vertigo
Double Indemnity
12 Angry Men
To Kill a Mockingbird
The Maltese Falcon
Casablanca
The African Queen
All Quiet On the Western Front
Chinatown
The Manchurian Candidate
The French Connection
The Bourne Ultimatum
Dr. No
The Untouchables
Gangs of New York
The Godfather
Die Hard
Das Boot
One Flew Over the Cuckoo's nest
It's A Wonderful Life
A River Runs Through It
In the Heat of the Night
A Raisin in The Sun
Star Wars
The Right Stuff
Apollo 13
Indiana Jones &the LastCrusaders
The Iron Giant
The Lord of The Rings
Ghostbusters
Rudy
Gandhi
Dead Poets' Society
Old Yeller
The other ones not included I've seen or rewatched or remember clearly since reading this list
I think I may have seen Glengarry Glen Ross. I will look him and it up.
Yes, I definitely saw Glengarry Glen Ross before.
A powerful movie on sales and what a great cast of characters. I learned sales techniques from that movie and once considered being a real estate agent myself.
I had an unusual amount of people tell me to get into real estate sales over the years.
My Dad and brother warned me against it-isolated in empty houses with strangers; meetups in alcohol establishments; have to be available all days of the week and then I learned about the porn fetish with female agents , omg.
The clips I just saw got my heart beating fast though. Same feeling when I dared open that bodybuilder at the gym recently, or when watching a Grant Cardone video where he negotiates price. There might be some future in sales for me, at least, further developing my game in life.....I do get a rush from it.
I'll look up the other Marmot movies.
I've seen House of Games but not Redbelt yet.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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that's right. Bring back these examples. It's fantastic idea to expose yourself to strong masculinity examples from movies. It's exhilarating seeing a proper order to things again.
I'll find a way to watch each of these movies.
300 is awesome. All those movies that have training and physical conditioning in them are powerfully masculine.
Then combine that with strategems of battle. Lots of valuable lessons.
fantastic list!! screenshotting this
I'm just now watching 300.
Powerful stuff. Great soundtrack and optics in this movie.
Show no fear. Sword, spear and shield. Occupation: Spartan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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How so?
An author named Alain de Botton mentioned the free P hub with the videos available. Went to the site and saw that was a common theme under Reality category I think.How so?
love hoopla
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The 1949 film based on the biblical story of Samson And Delilah is worth watching.
Directed by Cecil B. DeMille
Starring: Angela Lansbury, George Sanders, Hedy Lamarr & Victor Mature.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.