Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
oh yes, a younger Denzel Washington too. That little daughter kept on acting too.That movie was so old I think Ryan Gosling had only a five word script…
Barely noticed him.
It really is a great movie. Amazon has it to rent. Well worth the 4 bucks. I have the VHS (don't laugh).It looks good from the clip I found on the internet. Danny deVito looks like a dominant patriarch in it.
other people money?
Awesome! I've never rented on the internet. Maybe if I get one of those 7-11 visa cards, I'll rent it.It really is a great movie. Amazon has it to rent. Well worth the 4 bucks. I have the VHS (don't laugh).
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
on a art of masculinity blog I get delivered to my email. I screenshotted the ones I'd think that I might like. I'll go look at the screenshots and there should be a date in details on the shot and the email/blog date would have been delivered that day or within a few days before that date.Where's this list of masculinity movies of which you speak?
RTT was not my cup of tea. Appreciate the message and history behind it, but I just didn't like the movie itself.
TBH, you prob. can get the movie free from the library. You'd be amazed how many movies the library has. Never knew until recently. They also have an online version where you can stream for free, all you need is your library card usually.Awesome! I've never rented on the internet. Maybe if I get one of those 7-11 visa cards, I'll rent it.
I have Conan the Barbarian and Live at Pompeii-Pink Floyd and my hs graduation on vhs, no player anymore though so no laughs from me. At least you probably still have a player to watch it on.
oh yes, I was trying to entertain my last love in the last month before the end with my hoopla/library card movie watching. I guess I blocked that out of my memory temporarily. Thanks for reminder.TBH, you prob. can get the movie free from the library. You'd be amazed how many movies the library has. Never knew until recently. They also have an online version where you can stream for free, all you need is your library card usually.
Some that I still want to see for the first time or again from that list of masculine movies:on a art of masculinity blog I get delivered to my email. I screenshotted the ones I'd think that I might like. I'll go look at the screenshots and there should be a date in details (Edit to add: I found Dec 26, 2020)on the shot and the email/blog date would have been delivered that day or within a few days before that date.
its too bad it wasn't your cup of tea. 'Maltese Falcon' was on that list(your profile name suggests you like that masculine movie)
I think I may have seen Glengarry Glen Ross. I will look him and it up.The truth is I can't remember if I've seen Maltese Falcon all the way through. I'm going to put it on my list anyway!
If you are into films about masculinity, most movies by David Mamet are good. (Avoid "Hannibal," unless you want a laugh.) Redbelt, House of Games, Glengarry Glen Ross, Things Change, Spanish Prisoner, Spartan...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
that's right. Bring back these examples. It's fantastic idea to expose yourself to strong masculinity examples from movies. It's exhilarating seeing a proper order to things again.Remember The Titans.... Remember when Masculinity was not this evil that must be purged... The good ol days
300 is awesome. All those movies that have training and physical conditioning in them are powerfully masculine.I think "300" is the best masculine movie, with "Rudy" & "Rocky (I)" as the best sports movies.
Some sports movies I like:
Raging Bull
Field of Dreams
School Ties
Any Given Sunday (shouldn't like it but I do)
Slap Shot (haven't seen it in years though)
Bull Durham
and the documentary, When We Were Kings
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How so?I learned about the porn fetish with female agents , omg.
An author named Alain de Botton mentioned the free P hub with the videos available. Went to the site and saw that was a common theme under Reality category I think.How so?![]()
love hooplaoh yes, I was trying to entertain my last love in the last month before the end with my hoopla/library card movie watching. I guess I blocked that out of my memory temporarily. Thanks for reminder.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.