You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
oh yes, a younger Denzel Washington too. That little daughter kept on acting too.That movie was so old I think Ryan Gosling had only a five word script…
Barely noticed him.
It really is a great movie. Amazon has it to rent. Well worth the 4 bucks. I have the VHS (don't laugh).It looks good from the clip I found on the internet. Danny deVito looks like a dominant patriarch in it.
other people money?
Awesome! I've never rented on the internet. Maybe if I get one of those 7-11 visa cards, I'll rent it.It really is a great movie. Amazon has it to rent. Well worth the 4 bucks. I have the VHS (don't laugh).
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
on a art of masculinity blog I get delivered to my email. I screenshotted the ones I'd think that I might like. I'll go look at the screenshots and there should be a date in details on the shot and the email/blog date would have been delivered that day or within a few days before that date.Where's this list of masculinity movies of which you speak?
RTT was not my cup of tea. Appreciate the message and history behind it, but I just didn't like the movie itself.
TBH, you prob. can get the movie free from the library. You'd be amazed how many movies the library has. Never knew until recently. They also have an online version where you can stream for free, all you need is your library card usually.Awesome! I've never rented on the internet. Maybe if I get one of those 7-11 visa cards, I'll rent it.
I have Conan the Barbarian and Live at Pompeii-Pink Floyd and my hs graduation on vhs, no player anymore though so no laughs from me. At least you probably still have a player to watch it on.
oh yes, I was trying to entertain my last love in the last month before the end with my hoopla/library card movie watching. I guess I blocked that out of my memory temporarily. Thanks for reminder.TBH, you prob. can get the movie free from the library. You'd be amazed how many movies the library has. Never knew until recently. They also have an online version where you can stream for free, all you need is your library card usually.
Some that I still want to see for the first time or again from that list of masculine movies:on a art of masculinity blog I get delivered to my email. I screenshotted the ones I'd think that I might like. I'll go look at the screenshots and there should be a date in details (Edit to add: I found Dec 26, 2020)on the shot and the email/blog date would have been delivered that day or within a few days before that date.
its too bad it wasn't your cup of tea. 'Maltese Falcon' was on that list(your profile name suggests you like that masculine movie)
I think I may have seen Glengarry Glen Ross. I will look him and it up.The truth is I can't remember if I've seen Maltese Falcon all the way through. I'm going to put it on my list anyway!
If you are into films about masculinity, most movies by David Mamet are good. (Avoid "Hannibal," unless you want a laugh.) Redbelt, House of Games, Glengarry Glen Ross, Things Change, Spanish Prisoner, Spartan...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
that's right. Bring back these examples. It's fantastic idea to expose yourself to strong masculinity examples from movies. It's exhilarating seeing a proper order to things again.Remember The Titans.... Remember when Masculinity was not this evil that must be purged... The good ol days
300 is awesome. All those movies that have training and physical conditioning in them are powerfully masculine.I think "300" is the best masculine movie, with "Rudy" & "Rocky (I)" as the best sports movies.
Some sports movies I like:
Raging Bull
Field of Dreams
School Ties
Any Given Sunday (shouldn't like it but I do)
Slap Shot (haven't seen it in years though)
Bull Durham
and the documentary, When We Were Kings
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
How so?I learned about the porn fetish with female agents , omg.
An author named Alain de Botton mentioned the free P hub with the videos available. Went to the site and saw that was a common theme under Reality category I think.How so?![]()
love hooplaoh yes, I was trying to entertain my last love in the last month before the end with my hoopla/library card movie watching. I guess I blocked that out of my memory temporarily. Thanks for reminder.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.