"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Move to New Jersey or move to Miami?

captain55

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I’ve lived in Cali my whole life and I’m sick of traffic and the overpopulated ****. What La has offered me is access to beautiful women I wouldn’t of ****ed being anywhere else.

I was in New Jersey last week and I loved the people. I felt like I was around real genuine people for a change and it was refreshing. Miami is full of chicks with the same gold digging **** attitude as La.

What should I chose fellas?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That’s up to you... At 40... The thought of the cost of living and Miami life style makes me cringe. If I had to chose between the two.. I would take New Jersey... plenty of girls and fun during the spring and summer at the beach. The way this world is going I am staying far away from any cities... the more rural I can get the better... thats just me. Lol
 

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I’ve lived in Cali my whole life and I’m sick of traffic and the overpopulated ****. What La has offered me is access to beautiful women I wouldn’t of ****ed being anywhere else.

I was in New Jersey last week and I loved the people. I felt like I was around real genuine people for a change and it was refreshing. Miami is full of chicks with the same gold digging **** attitude as La.

What should I chose fellas?
It is hot in Miami, but cold in New Jersey.
 

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Miami is latin America. I would not live there without knowing spanish. I like the tampa area much better. The women are not as hot, but it is less expensive, they speak english, and it is not a bunch of backwards hillbillies like the rest of florida.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lol at New Jersey awww hell naw---When I use to be in sales the worst attitude and entitled customers came out NJ

Miami is overpriced but the Poon is A++ including the tourist chick
A++ lol. And lol @ entitlement.
 

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Are you fluent in Spanish? Miami is a lot better if you are fluent in Spanish.
 

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Are you fluent in Spanish? Miami is a lot better if you are fluent in Spanish.
Not fluent in Spanish. Just a 27 year old guy trying to **** as many hot women as possible and enjoy life. I think Miami and jersey are both great, I like the people and culture in jersey better but the women in Miami are hotter (also harder to pull). Still anything bears Cali....don’t see myself ever coming back to even visit this place has gone to ****. I’ll move to a farm in Montana before I ever live in Cali again
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I’ve lived in Cali my whole life and I’m sick of traffic and the overpopulated ****. What La has offered me is access to beautiful women I wouldn’t of ****ed being anywhere else.

I was in New Jersey last week and I loved the people. I felt like I was around real genuine people for a change and it was refreshing. Miami is full of chicks with the same gold digging **** attitude as La.

What should I chose fellas?
Go to where the money is, women should follow.
 

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Depends on where in NJ...big difference between Short Hills and Camden.
This right here, I was thinking northern NJ or southern NJ? In between Morristown & Hackettstown your basically looking at italian girls and latinas. Depends on what your looking for but I think Miami would be better. Have you ever looked into Tampa/clearwater down there is wild fun.
 

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This right here, I was thinking northern NJ or southern NJ? In between Morristown & Hackettstown your basically looking at italian girls and latinas. Depends on what your looking for but I think Miami would be better. Have you ever looked into Tampa/clearwater down there is wild fun.
Isn't Jersey going to be more closed off people and groups? Wouldn't Miami be more open and free flowing due to tourism, the colleges, etc?
 

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Isn't Jersey going to be more closed off people and groups? Wouldn't Miami be more open and free flowing due to tourism, the colleges, etc?
No. Quite the opposite in my experience. Miami is more hood and cliquish. It’s also basically just the Caribbean.

Jersey has a bit of everything - rich white people, poor White people, black Americans, black immigrants, East Asians, South Asians, Italians, Jews, Caribbean Latinos, Central American Latinos .. all have their own enclaves in Jersey
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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No. Quite the opposite in my experience. Miami is more hood and cliquish. It’s also basically just the Caribbean.

Jersey has a bit of everything - rich white people, poor White people, black Americans, black immigrants, East Asians, South Asians, Italians, Jews, Caribbean Latinos, Central American Latinos .. all have their own enclaves in Jersey
Yea but will they let outsiders in faster in Jersey or Miami?
 

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I would live in NYC if you can afford it. I live in Jersey and always go into the city when I go out. The places are cooler and the women are hotter, at least they were pre Covid. Plus, New Yorkers despise people from Jersey Lol. If you plan on dating chicks in NYC, some might disqualify just from being from Jersey.
 

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I’ve lived in Cali my whole life and I’m sick of traffic and the overpopulated ****. What La has offered me is access to beautiful women I wouldn’t of ****ed being anywhere else.

I was in New Jersey last week and I loved the people. I felt like I was around real genuine people for a change and it was refreshing. Miami is full of chicks with the same gold digging **** attitude as La.

What should I chose fellas?
I gonna say this because im from jersey..(born in atlantic city) still stuck here...STAY AWAY FROM THIS STATE..RUN, DONT WALK
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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