"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Move on or try again?

Double J

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I wrote a few days ago about a hot girl from the internet that I met at the mall, and I was really taken by her appearance. I've asked her on different occasions for us to meet up again, and she said she'd like to but she's too busy with work because she works everyday and with school.


At first I gave her the benefit of the doubt, but I think I should next her because she's not showing the interest that an interested person would demonstrate. Sometimes she comes online and doesn't even contact me.

Should I maybe show up at the mall one day (she works there at the mall where we met) and pretend that I'm just there buying stuff or whatever to try to salvage something out of this.. or should I just next her?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sapphire

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Sounds like low IL to me.

No, you should not appear at her job without her knowing because it will look like you are stalking her.

The best thing to do is wait a couple of days and ask her out again. If she gives you BS , then next.
 

Chlarence

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I don't like to say this but it sounds low IL to me.

If I was you I'd ask her out one more time, if she comes up with another excuse, next her.
 

BramhaBull60

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Hate to be negative but...

Double J,

Don't go back to see that girl. If she is not responding back to you when your online , and she says shes busy with work and school, shes blowing you off dude. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if she liked you, she would have made time to be with you. Its not worth coming off weak by showing up at her work. You have to much going on to worry about one chick's bull****. If I were you, I would go to that same mall, and just cold approach the hotties that walk by once every five minutes, then when one sticks with you. Tgo into the store where she works and drive her nuts lol
 

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Well we're not getting the whole story here.

Have you asked her once or several times? If you said once, then no big deal - she probably is considering it is the HOLIDAYS where vacations, school finals, extra work is coming into play here.

If you've asked her several times already, she might not like you that much.

I dunno why some of you want to jump the gun so fast. Easier said than done fools. In the first couple of dates you gotta be flexible.
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Double J

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Deathdealer,

The second outing is still pending. I've only seen her once, and since then I've told her to go and get coffee one day and that we're going to have to play a little one on one (since she loves basketball and claims she's good). But apparently she's super busy.

Another tidbit of information:
The day we met in person, she was already interested in some guy in school, but the guy had a g/f so she had to forget about that.

I'm only persistent with this girl because I thought she was very attractive, but she seemed super shy. So it could be a combination of things - she's shy, she's busy, she might not be interested..

Whatever the case may be, I don't mind nexting her if she has low interest level. Not going to get all bent out of shape over a good piece of @$$.
 
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Originally posted by DeathDealer
Well we're not getting the whole story here.

Have you asked her once or several times? If you said once, then no big deal - she probably is considering it is the HOLIDAYS where vacations, school finals, extra work is coming into play here.

If you've asked her several times already, she might not like you that much.

I dunno why some of you want to jump the gun so fast. Easier said than done fools. In the first couple of dates you gotta be flexible.
spoken like a wise fool :D
 

Aztec

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Originally posted by Double J

At first I gave her the benefit of the doubt, but I think I should next her because she's not showing the interest that an interested person would demonstrate. Sometimes she comes online and doesn't even contact me.

DJ, I'm not sure if you want to close this topic and move on.


Anyway, all the info in the beginning have red flags about her IL.
 

christz

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wait.. did you meet this girl on the internet and then met her up in person at the mall?

i mean i hate to say this, but i guess when she saw you in person maybe she didn't like what she saw.. you can't please everybody.. so next and move on
 
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