"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mould your Mindset
- Thread starter G-Man UK
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I_Only_Live_Once
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frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
this is a great post...!:woo:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
silverwex
Master Don Juan
Excellent post Shezz - keep it up!
I've been getting really into positive thinking and visualisations in the past fews days, reading books and using affirmations and this post is a great companion to my 'studies'.
I'm currently reading Susan Jeffer's - Feel the Fear... and do it anyway! - WHAT a book! I suggest everyone buy this, read it thouroughly and use the techniques outlined throughout, then go and buy Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and use the techniques in that also. (Side Note: Im getting The Game by Neil Strauss soon too, should be an excellent read!)
After even a DAY (yes - ONE DAY) of positive thinking and 'sabotaging' my negative thoughts the second they pop up - I'm starting to feel much more confident/happy etc.
Im now readying myself to go out next saturday night and approach women like never before - this coming from a guy that just gave up on the whole approaching scene before he even tried it!
It's all in the mind guys, try positive thinking and affirmations and see what happens...!
PM me for details.
Futuristic
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- I could die tommorow. The Supreme Being doesn't care if I've lived a complete life or not; he can end it at any moment.
- The majority of people in this world live horrible, hungry, repressed, painful lives.
- I am a healthy young man living in the most free country on Earth. I have little to complain about, but nonetheless, I should try to improve my life.
- Most people don't spend any time thinking about me. Sometimes I think they do; sometimes I think they judge me from head to toe every time they see me. A) They probably don't B) If they do, so what?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
GS-83
Don Juan
It`s all in the mind
believing = seeing