"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mould your Mindset
- Thread starter G-Man UK
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I_Only_Live_Once
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frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
this is a great post...!:woo:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
silverwex
Master Don Juan
Excellent post Shezz - keep it up!
I've been getting really into positive thinking and visualisations in the past fews days, reading books and using affirmations and this post is a great companion to my 'studies'.
I'm currently reading Susan Jeffer's - Feel the Fear... and do it anyway! - WHAT a book! I suggest everyone buy this, read it thouroughly and use the techniques outlined throughout, then go and buy Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and use the techniques in that also. (Side Note: Im getting The Game by Neil Strauss soon too, should be an excellent read!)
After even a DAY (yes - ONE DAY) of positive thinking and 'sabotaging' my negative thoughts the second they pop up - I'm starting to feel much more confident/happy etc.
Im now readying myself to go out next saturday night and approach women like never before - this coming from a guy that just gave up on the whole approaching scene before he even tried it!
It's all in the mind guys, try positive thinking and affirmations and see what happens...!
PM me for details.
Futuristic
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- I could die tommorow. The Supreme Being doesn't care if I've lived a complete life or not; he can end it at any moment.
- The majority of people in this world live horrible, hungry, repressed, painful lives.
- I am a healthy young man living in the most free country on Earth. I have little to complain about, but nonetheless, I should try to improve my life.
- Most people don't spend any time thinking about me. Sometimes I think they do; sometimes I think they judge me from head to toe every time they see me. A) They probably don't B) If they do, so what?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GS-83
Don Juan
It`s all in the mind
believing = seeing