"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Mould your Mindset
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I_Only_Live_Once
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frivolousz21
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this is a great post...!:woo:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
silverwex
Master Don Juan
Excellent post Shezz - keep it up!
I've been getting really into positive thinking and visualisations in the past fews days, reading books and using affirmations and this post is a great companion to my 'studies'.
I'm currently reading Susan Jeffer's - Feel the Fear... and do it anyway! - WHAT a book! I suggest everyone buy this, read it thouroughly and use the techniques outlined throughout, then go and buy Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and use the techniques in that also. (Side Note: Im getting The Game by Neil Strauss soon too, should be an excellent read!)
After even a DAY (yes - ONE DAY) of positive thinking and 'sabotaging' my negative thoughts the second they pop up - I'm starting to feel much more confident/happy etc.
Im now readying myself to go out next saturday night and approach women like never before - this coming from a guy that just gave up on the whole approaching scene before he even tried it!
It's all in the mind guys, try positive thinking and affirmations and see what happens...!
PM me for details.
Futuristic
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- I could die tommorow. The Supreme Being doesn't care if I've lived a complete life or not; he can end it at any moment.
- The majority of people in this world live horrible, hungry, repressed, painful lives.
- I am a healthy young man living in the most free country on Earth. I have little to complain about, but nonetheless, I should try to improve my life.
- Most people don't spend any time thinking about me. Sometimes I think they do; sometimes I think they judge me from head to toe every time they see me. A) They probably don't B) If they do, so what?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
GS-83
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It`s all in the mind
believing = seeing